Some of you know my history of depression. And today is a low day for me. How do you all with problems in your marraige keep going?? I was reading on another board (not marraige related) and the topic of marraige came up and all these replies were from happy people in great marraiges and I got so jealous!! Now that I am not so "depressed" because of the medication I am able to see my marraige clearer (since I am not so concerned about me) and it still depresses me!!! There just isn't any happiness in it. There is no joy, no fun, my husband and I don't ever kid around or hold hands or anything. Yikes. Sorry if I am depressing anyone else. I promise this will be my last post today. I just need a pick me up! <br>

GBM,<p>How do I keep going? Hope, in a nutshell. I used to be a pretty depressed person myself though I've never taken meds for it. I've discovered that I was pretty much depressed in proportion to my lack of purpose and direction. Now that I've gotten better in that area a lot of the depression seems to hae taken care of itself.<br>I've always loved and respected people who have a sense of humor, and try to maintain one myself. I just don't see how anyone can make it without one.<br>Which leads me to ask you something. You say that there is no fun in your marriage. Perhaps its just a case of you and your husband having grown apart. I'm sure there are things that make you and he respond in a happy or lighthearted manner as individuals. It would take work and probably some awkward moments, but I'll bet if you two tried you could find out what some of those things are and see if you could share them.<br>From your posts I've read in the past I'm guessing that the biggest obstacle may simply be cooperation. But I can't believe that you're both humorless bores all the time.<br>And what about thinking back to some times in your marriage when you had some fun together. If you can discern a common element there then it might give you a key.<br>Maybe you've already thought of all this before, but maybe not.

Bruce--<br>Ok I knew I said I wouldn't post anymore, but I will reply! <br>Thanks, you given me a lot to think about. I HAVE been accused (by H) of not having a sense of humor. But his humor was always directd at me., I'm going to have to think about the fun times. It has been so long I don't know if my memory will be clear. But we have even talked about that to try to figure out what has gone wrong with the relationship. As far as we can tell I was a different person then (more fun loving and happy and spontaneeous), so he was happier with me. I just can't seem to make it back to that state of mind.<br>Thanks for the reply.