As my wife and I head towards divorce I continue to find myself very attracted to her. Of course this was true even before this divorce crap. Now I have no outlets for this sexual energy (of course there is always masturbation). <P>I am really having difficulty today and I needed to express my thoughts/desire rather than just keep them in my head!<P>Thanks for listening!

One thing I do when I'm missing my H that way is to picture him with that skank he is with and believe me the urge goes away very fast. <P>Jill

If my wife were with some one I would dothat, the problem is taht we are living in the same house and I don't believe she has a boy friend!

I lived with my x for several months between the time he filed and moved out. It was really hard. <P>At the time I didn't think he actually had OW but I knew he was shopping. And I was the only one of the two of us who had a normal sex drive. <P>I don't know exactly what you're going through although I do have an understanding of your pain. I can't give you any pearls of advice. I just remember how I had to guard my heart, keep praying, and see my therapist at least once a week and I called him when I had to during the week between appointments. (Have you considered a support group such as DivorceCare? They have a web site where you can find the group closest to you.)<P>I know it hurts. You sound like you so very much want a miracle for your marriage. I just pray that you get it and if that is not to be I pray that you will find peace and healing. Just remember that this is very much like the grief process when someone dies. It's not over with the funeral. Grieving takes a long time.

Thanks, I know it is a process and yes I have considered a divorce support group. The problem is that it is in direct conflict with other stuff (like work).<P>