Hi all, last time I posted, things were looking up between my W and I; she was starting to come around, hang around, was upset with her job and her relationship with the OM....she was actually going to seek counseling for herself.<P> Well, I talked to her this weekend and she told me she didn't go to the counseling appointment; it wasn't a temporary cancellation either. She's given up on us and made her choice very clear; she's staying with him.<P> We have a court date tomorrow at 9am; we should be dissoluted? dissolusioned? (what exactly is the past tense of a dissolution anway?) by 10am...<P> I let my guard down and believed that she was sincere; I was hit hard six months ago, and this was just about as bad. You want to believe in someone, but the person that you knew isn't there anymore. It's unfortunate for all of us...<P>theo<P><BR>

Bummer! Can't say much else.

I know how you feel. At least she finally made up her mind and quit stringing you along. Now you can move ahead with your life.<P>Jill

I am sorry that you had to deal with this feeling twice over now.. I have to say though, I wish my ex would give me just an inkling of hope so I could crush his feeling right back.. <P>we all do deserve alot better then this, and I hope for your sake and all who are going through this, things take a turn for the better.. <P>my papers are signed sealed and delivered to the courts, it is just a matter of time, that we are final... <P>lots of luck tomorrow, and hold your head up real high, because you *are* the bigger and better person here!!!<P>AV

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Theo,<P>It has been a while since I saw you on the board, sorry to see the circumstances. <P>I believe that second time around stings worse than the first one because you've been thru that pain and you get that slight glimmer of hope again. You start to feel just a little bit like your gonna make it and then they are gone again.<P>I know how that feels and it is hard to get thru. Lean on us when you need to vent.<P>Sending a prayer for your court tomorrow. Above all at this point, be sure to protect your financial future. I gave up and I'm paying for it now.<P>Good luck and be strong in front of her. My ex brought OW to the divorce hearing!!!!!<P>Dana<BR>

It's tough to go through this. My x changed his mind several times. Back and forth between wanting a divorce and wanting to work on the marriage. He was too %*&#@*# up to do any real work though - unless you count working with his attorney.<P>Sorry about what awaits you and for how you feel. But, you will survive. It just feels like you're dying. <P>If you're the one going to the therapist - go just for yourself. It's well worth every penny you spend. Almost as important as food for your body. Remember, the therapist's job is not to fix you or the things in your life. It is to listen while you find yourself.<P>Hugs and prayers for better times to come and for peace tomorrow. <BR> <P>- Cinderella<P>T<BR>

Theo,<P>Sorry you had to go through that again, I went through it 3-4 times and each time is just as devastating. The last time was when i had had enough and anything I felt for her was gone.<P>My prayers will be with you.<BR> <P>p.s. It looks like I will be taking over some of the Columbus area. I have a bunch of accounts in Easton and New Albany that I will be servicing soon. Maybe we can get together someday for lunch.<P>Bob

well, it's over...I guess from some of your posts <BR>that I should feel fortunate that she didn't change her <BR>mind 2-3-4 times and that our whole discovery to divorce <BR>day was a short time span (D-Day, March 19th; Diss-Day, <BR>October 4th).<BR>The only good thing that came out of today was that the <BR>judge noticed that she had put down a different income <BR>than what she had last Spring...must've gotten a raise <BR>from her boss (who's also the OM). So, I'm getting $300 <BR>per month in child support vs. $180. I have a feeling <BR>that her new income statement isn't reliable either...<BR> Y'know, isn't the court system a little too <BR>efficient? I've never been to a court, but we <BR>live in Columbus, OH and the Franklin County Court System <BR>is almost like an airport. We were in court #43 ("Brown <BR>vs. Brown, your dissolution will be departing in 10 minutes")<BR>It's almost like the judge was taking your order at a drive-<BR>thru window ("That's one dissolution with a court ordered <BR>child-support decree...would you like to renew your auto tags <BR>with that?"). We had to wait for an hour, and I watched four <BR>couples get a divorce, plus (as a bonus) a juvenile case <BR>involving some sort of insanity plea....sheesh.<P>thanks Jill, AV, and TM - you've made me feel normal <P>Cinderella - maybe I'll continue to see a counselor; <BR>wouldn't hurt and it's insured...<P>Dana - he brought the OW to the hearing!?! Oh my; <BR>actually, I was concerned about that, but thankfully <BR>she didn't...<P>Bob - Easton and New Albany?? What's your business, <BR>caviar and golf clubs? Let me know when you're <BR>in town; I work on campus. Nothing's too far away <BR>in Columbus....<P>take care,<BR>theo<BR>

AH, Ohio! The only place I've been where the statement that "You can't get there from here" is really true. There were completed roads on my map that were nothing put dirt and construction machines. Every single road in Ohio is under construction - or it was two years ago when my children and I went to Cleveland for vacation. Yup, they want to go again. Whales in Aurora. Hotel with indoor pool and an art museum (they were 5 and 7 and into Monet).

hey now Cinderella..., are roads aren't that bad! Ever since we raised the drinking age to 21 back in '80's and received our federal aid to improve the highways, they've constantly been under construction; the project should be completed by 2035.<P> Your kids were into Monet at 5 & 7? That's incredible...are you an art educator or involved in the field of art somehow?<P>theo<P><BR>