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My wife has been having an affair with the same guy for two years and collaterally entertaining to some degree of intimacy at least one other guy. Even though she keeps telling me not to give up, I am at the end of my rope.<P>Right now, she is having her cake and eating it too.<P>Problem is, my 7 yr old daughter wants to know if we are going to eventually become a family again. She thinks I'm causing the family to break up. What do I do? How much of the truth, if any, do I tell her?<p>[This message has been edited by john1960 (edited October 03, 2000).]
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Tell her your wife is seeing another man and you don't know what she is going to do.<P>Don't lie, don't "fudge" the truth. You don't need to tell her all the intimate details, but she should know what is going on.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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I agree with Chris. My x tried to cover things up when she left, telling the kids, she was going away for a while. I told them the truth. IT hurt, but there was no lying and awkwarrd situations for me.<P>X also tried to pass off om as a roommate, then a male friend, but my kids saw through all those lies too. <P>Your kids need someone they can count on now. That has to be YOU. You can't be lying to her too.<P><BR>Best of luck and God's Blessings.<P>Bob
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Be honest with the kids without passing judgement (if that is possible). If wife tells you not to giveup yet continues to see another man you are allowing her to have her cake and eat it too.<P>Your daughter deserves more than this and wife should be held accountable!
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Thank you all for your responses!<P>You all seem to be saying the same thing!<P>My daughter is 7. She just told my wife she doesn't like the OM...but she doesn't know his signifance in all this.<P>Is she old enough to know?
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Don't kid yourself she already knows! She may not know all the details but she knows!<P>Rise above it! Be the best parent you can be offer your daughter love and guidence.<P>Let your wife do what she well you can't control it. Boy I should be doing this!<P>Hang in there John
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