Well...<P>My my divorce trial <B>won't</B> be on October 10th afterall... <P>It is now rescheduled as a "Case Management Conference"...<BR>...where the new judge that was assigned to our case will try and convince us to settle out of court...<P>...so the new date will be sometime in 4 to 6 weeks.<P>--------------------------------------------<P>I feel some closure should be in order soon...<BR>...but I can live with it a little longer.<P>Thanks for all who pray for me. <P>--------------------------------------------<P>see Chris... I can make them short... <P>Jim

Closure is such a nice word. <P>Too bad it takes so long to get there.<P>My prayers are with you.<P>Brian

Jim,<P>It sounds as if you're looking forward to the closure, and I can completely understand.<P>There have been days that I have contemplated initiating the divorce just to get it over with, (as far as I know, she hasn't filed yet), and actually today is one. This is more of a contunuously oozing wound that will never heal, and even if went against my desires and I initiated it, I would at least be sure of the final outcome and achieve the ever sought after closure that we are all searching for. I have contacted an attorney, I can get it fairly cheap as I know the right people, $500, and in Iowa there is a 90 day waiting period before it's final. I have weighed whether or not it would expedite a decision on her part or not, but I'm afraid that if I file I will stick to my guns. Enough about me.<P>Take care and God Bless.<P>------------------<BR>I am in this situation for a very good reason, it just took time to get over my own self-pity and understand why.

Jim...<P>Hey, just stopped in to see what was on your update.<P>Sometimes it's hard to know whther the delays are good or bad...but you do remain in my thoughts & prayers...<P>Kathi<P>

Jim,<BR>Just to let you know I'm thinking about you and praying for you.<P>Bob

Add another person to your list of people who are praying for you. <P>It's difficult to feel any peace when they keep juggling your schedule. We were on the docket as a contested case but hammered it out before we walked into the courtroom. <P>Good luck and rest assured my prayers are with you.<P>--Cinderella<P>------------------<BR>JMJ

Jim...<P>Thanks for the update. I know you have been busy and have a lot going on in your life so remember that self-care is important for you as you travel down this path in your life.<P>I pray for you. We all are interested in how your situation is unfolding but also we want to know how Jim is doing...Hows the health doing?...is that detour you took a while back behind you and you are A-O.K.? How are you doing in the job//career department?<P>mr rlk

NSR,<P>I always look forward to reading your inspiring replies to people here! Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time!<BR>

Yeah Jim, how are <B>YOU</B> doing?<P>Praying for you too...<P>... and clearly still checking in on my friends, <P>Sheryl

Jim,<BR>hey hun, yes closure is good, even if it does come before ya thought it would my final date was actualy moved up 20 days. I have been able to turn my back on ever thing that I have been through but I think when I am no longer married to him (even though I havent truly been married to him for two years)any more, I can close the door on that part of my life, and finish what I have started as a new beginning for me and the kids. LOL but you have always been one of the ppl on here that I look to for a way "to be" for my self and my kids and ya need a BIG <B> THANK YOU!!!</B>from me and my youngins, lol I remember there was a time you were emailin me to keep me sane and level headed...see toold ya there was no need to worry ....your a great friend and inspiration.<P><BR>Lesa<P>------------------<BR>"It took me quite a while to realize that <B>the real deal</B> is to be able to be enough of a person on your own to know when somebody loves you and cares about you"<BR>----Stevie Ray Vaughan<P>"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and<BR> lean not unto thine own understanding." -Proverbs 3:5<BR>Take care and God Bless.<P> lms20ish@fidnet.com

{{{{{{{{{{JIM}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Well I was thinking your big day was coming, since its my "old" big day too.<P>Keep up your strength and I'll be praying for you.<P>I don't have time to read all your replies here tonite, but I wonder, are you OK with this delay, as 6 weeks is pushing towards the holidays ? <P>How are you doing in the meantime, don't see you on much either.<P>Prayers and hugs, <P>Dana<BR>

Gee guys...<P>Thanks for the concern...<P>I am OK...<P>Not working yet...<BR>...but after Tuesday's session I will move on getting a job quicker.<P>My technical skills are such that a new job won't be much of a problem.<P>--------------------------------------------<P>I'm OK with the delay...<BR>...but... after the eventual trial (4-6 weeks away most likely)<BR>...it really will be time for Plan B.<P>...I hope that doesn't upset anyone<BR>...but my love for my wife has dwindled<BR>...because of so many new revelations<P>...like<BR>still hurtful words sent to me via e-mail<BR>incredible similarities in how she is treating me (almost identical to her first xH)<BR>her lack of care for the kids and their future<BR>her lack of concern with her entire family (her mom/sisters/brothers)<BR>...yes still in the fog<BR>...still in the addiction<BR>...but no an iota of any sign she's coming out of it. <P>...I understand that these thoughts (negative of WS) are normal... as Plan As get protracted (18+ months since D-day... 13+ months since she left me and the kids)...<P>...when I go to Plan B...<BR>...I'll fill everyone in.<BR>...it will be a <I>different</I> kind of Plan B letter.<P>---------------------------------------------<P>I'm really much healthier now...<BR>...diabetes under control<BR>...exercising much more<BR>...stress is high (mostly because of 18-yo son... rebelling)<BR>...all effects of appendicitis are gone... <P>---------------------------------------------<P>You are all the best!!!<P>Love to you <B>all</B>...<BR><B>Brian</B>, <B>Still Praying</B>, <B>Kathi</B>, <B>Bob</B>, <B>Cinderella</B>, <B>mr rlk</B>, <B>Wifeofcop</B>, <B>Sheryl</B>, <B>Lesa</B>, <B>Dana</B><P> <P>Jim

The first was short but the 2nd made up for it! <P>Is it ever gonna end for ya’ Jim?<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>