It's been 2 years since my husband moved out and I still love him just as much today as ever. He called me twice today and I hope and continue to pray that we will one day re-marry. Anyone held on to that dream and it came true?

I have wondered the same thing, I understand it does happen. It is also my hope that if my wife goes through with all this she will see the light down the road!

I'd still give my ex first crack, no matter how many years went by, as long as I was not recommitted to another. I still think we'd have a better chance of success than some random person off the street. Even though 8 yrs together isn't THAT long in the big scheme of things, it is still 8 yrs longer than I've been with anyone else, soooo.

This was what I held out for during the 4 years I was separated from my wife before we divorced. <P>We were divorced in March of this year just before our 34th Anniversary.<P>Yes, I have heard of many instances where ex's re-married...it just deeply hurt me that I will obviously never have this testimony.<P>[censored] from Texas

My x's brother remarried his first x. But he didn't remarry his second x.

Cinderella,<P>does Xing run in your EH's family?<P>that's alot of marrying and divorcing for one person. I think you have had the decks stacked against you for a long, long time.<P>I hope it gets better for you than who you got involved with in the first place.<P>thl<P>thl

All I can say is WHY? Why bother. Not in my case - I don't want him. He never had an ounce of respect for me (cheated from day 1) and was a pathological, and very good, liar.<P>I'm not sure I want anyone else either. I've got a direction and a plan and goals and am happier now than I've been in a year (Friday was my 1-year anniversary of D day, and I was actually surprised to be ok).<P>But I totally understand how y'all can feel how you do and know how disheartened you are. I'm really sorry and just pray for miracles for everyone here.<P><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

Hurting too,<P>I don't have any personal experience here... but last year there was a couple who posted here quite a bit... Glenn & Carol. They remarried. Unfortunatly, we will never know if it would have worked for them...(Glenn was killed in a car accident shortly afterward). It seemed it would. They had both grown and worked so much.<P>I think that we (the MBer's) have a better shot at making a go of things the next time around.... we've learned about Love Banks, and Emotional Needs, etc... I honestly think that if you share this site, and all the information (and books) that you have a better chance of staying together/re-marriage than those who don't.<P>Good luck & God Bless.<BR>B<BR><P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Hurting Too,<P>I would never remarry my ex, he was too horrible at the break up for me to ever trust him again.<P>Butterfly,<BR>That is so sad, about the couple who remarried. <P><BR>Dana<BR>

I think the statistics are very low, and even those that re-married,(I think, but you can`t quote me) go back to hard times, and wind up with a mutual feeling of divorce, the second time around.. <P>I would love nothing more then to take my ex back, but there would be too many conditions, that he could never deal with.. (already proving to me that he couldn`t deal with it, when there were *no* conditions..) so it is not due to me, it is due to him, and his lack of substance to make any efforts.. <P>the shame on him, is now more for my daughter.. who will never get to see her divorced parents at least get along civilly.. he is so adiment, and ignorant it still really amazes me.. <P>I wish I could say, (and see) that the statistics were higher, and better then this... but it is a realy low, sad truth.. and most betrayed keep up their hopes only to be so drained and dissppointed.. and so much time does go by, before some face reality.. also sad but true.. <P>AV

For all of you 'hopeless romantics' out there, (like me); who have 'dreamed' of re-marrying your ex, let me encourage to rent "The New Parent Trap" with Dennis Quaid (a remake of the original with Brian Keith).<P>Also, you can rent "Twister", "The Firm", "Independence Day"and "Liar, Liar" as all of these movies have to do with ex's getting back together.<P>I have always said...."If Hollywood can restore/reconcile a marriage, even after divorce....why can't the Lord?"<P>Anyway....if you're not a hopeless romantic, but rather just a cold, calculated realist; don't waste your time watching these.<P>[censored] from Texas

I am still hanging on and praying that if it is God's will, that we will get back together. My ex called twice the other day, and called me on my birthday. He's seeing someone and has been for a year but I don't think he would call me if he still didn't care. Still hopeful!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by DanaB:<BR><B>Hurting Too,<P>I would never remarry my ex, he was too horrible at the break up for me to ever trust him again.<P>Dana</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Dana,<P>It is sometimes the shortest posts that mean the most. The few stories I have heard about couples reuniting seem to have one thing in common: Both spouses were able to keep their anger in-check. Sometimes a hard thing to do. That is all I am trying to do - handle this with dignity and maturity (and boy sometimes it is hard!). I do this not only to help possibly save our marriage, I do this to help me as a person grow.<P>I think that those of us that are on the brink of divorce can learn a lot from your one simple sentence. And I am so sorry that your husband was not able to be a mature person through your situation.<P>God Bless,

<BR>TheStudent shocks me to the core by declaring:<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I'd still give my ex first crack, no matter how many years went by, as long as I was not recommitted to another. I still think we'd have a better chance of success than some random person off the street. Even though 8 yrs together isn't THAT long in the big scheme of things, it is still 8 yrs longer than I've been with anyone else, soooo.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>After all I've read, after all our exchanges TS, I see this. I am speechless.<P>Bystander

If I really saw that my H had changed and was once again the man I love I would marry him again in a heartbeat. I don't know this man I'm divorcing and I just hope someday he leaves for good.<P>Jill