Ok,<P>Like Trapped Mom asked, why do they still lie, I also want to ask why are they so mean. It's not like I was cheating on him for 14 years. He took away everything that was important to me - and he has the audacity to not be willing to talk to me, lie to me when he does, say nasty things to the children about me, cut me or screw me over at any opportunity. I don't get it. He has so much hatred. I tried so hard to show him how much I loved him but he left anyway. And this is what I get.<P>Tonight, I only asked him (by e-mail since he refuses conversation with me) if we still have health insurance because he's no longer employed and my son is sick. He came back and said the boys will always have insurance until they're 18. Well, wait a minute, we're not divorced yet but does that mean he cut me off? He always has to put in a dig or a cut at me and it just kills me when he does. Why can't he just be decent and stop trying to hurt me, and help instead by just giving me a straight forward non-sarcastic answer. This is just one of the least abrasive responses from him, but it still cuts because he just can't act like a normal person towards me.<P>I was the faithful one. I was the one who loved and admired him for everything he was (or I should say I thought he was). This is my payment. There is no morality left in him, no kindness, just cocky arrogance. Actually, I believe he is paying me back for finding out what he was doing, and then not going back to being dumb about it. He had gotten away with it for so long. I really believe he hates me for finding out.<P>Well, he's making my life miserable every time I have to contact him and I find my self wishing very bad things on him so that I never have to deal with him again. How do people get thru the coming years with a hostile mean ex?<P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

{Kathy},<P>You have my prayers...<P>My W and I had our last "normal" conversation in August 1999...<BR>...and that was while she was telling me a boldfaced lie that she was moving away by herself (she already co-signed the lease... with the OM... )<P>There is only anger and hate and spite...<P>I really know where you are at.<P>I'm still in Plan A (believe it or not)...<BR>...but with a pending divorce trial (4-8 weeks away)... <P>...I know I really have to go to Plan B.<P>...it will come shortly after the trial.<P>But...<P>I am really working hard on being the better me... and it helps!<P> <P>Jim

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As far as him cutting you off his insurance, I don't believe he can unless you agree to it in writing. I know I wanted to do that to my x but couldn't until the divorce was final. Then she still had so long to find her own insurance.