Dana, I was thinking about you this morning, realized I hadn't really seen your name as regularly as usual. How are you doing?? -Java

{{{{Java}}}}<P>Hello to you and thank you for asking!! Yesterday was my wedding anniversary. Actually what is it once your divorced? A nothing day? You certainly don't want to call it your anniversary any more that's for sure!!!<P>I popped on for a second to look for a few people and never saw this!<P>Your right, I haven't been around much at all. Life is an amazing chaotic mess right now. I received my final divorce papers in the mail Saturday, at least they came before Tuesday but I shouldn't have read them. My state puts everything you said in writing and mails it with the divorce. That was hard.<P>I am also dealing with financial stress. Health stress. Total ex confusion all the way around and to top it off, my ex sent my kids on HIS visit last weekend to OW's mom's house, I was furious!!!<P>So with all that going on, I haven't been my usual positive self. I notice even today a few new names I don't recognize. <P>I hope all is well with you, feel free to email me anytime as well!<P>Prayers and hugs, Dana<P>dmbrown@frontiernet.net<BR>

It was good to hear back from you! I had just been lurking around here more than usual the past couple of days and noticed that you kind of disappeared.<P>I am sorry about yesterday. I really don't know what it should be called either. I mean there should be some sort of a term for it. <P>I understand about all the stress! I have been going through similar. But we will make it through all of it. Just takes time I guess. If you ever want to talk about it, I am here for you.<P>It is sad to see all the new names. I say that when I am just about to hit 1 month of me posting... I hope that they find what they need here. <P>I am actually doing better now that I have been visiting. I have found myself actually dealing with the things that I have been avoiding dealing with, and things are looking a little more optimistic for me. Granted my mood swings are more frequent, but I guess that it is a good thing. I am finding more of me that I have long since hidden in the past.<P>Take care of yourself!! And when you are able to, don't be a stranger. I know that there are a lot of people here that carry you in their thoughts and wish you the best.<P>-Java

Dana,<P>I hate hearing aboutall the chaos in your life.<P>Come here and unload it! Draw strength from our experience, strength and hope!<P>Bill

{{{Java}}},<P>I can't believe you have only been here for a month. Wow. I am glad you found the peace you needed here. I have been here about ten months now. I have seen many of the people who were here , or just getting here when I came, go through the final stages of divorce.<P>I feel I learned so much here that I could have never learned anywhere else. I have made a ton of mistakes along the way and many things I wish I could do over. <P>But in the end, I know I can come here when I need to and thats a comfort.<P>{{{{Bill}}}},<BR>My life just took another turn into yet one more thing to deal with yesterday. I can't believe how when it rains, it just pours til you cry so badly you just can't cry any more.<P>I know I can post to all my friends, my actual second family here. I just can't seem to find the words to say much right now.<P>Hugs and prayers to you both,<BR>Dana<BR>