I am currently having marital problems. I am 35 and my wife for 9 yrs. is 34. We have one son 5. Recently, my wife told me she was not in love with me any longer for three years. She had been feeling this way for some time but never revealed her true feelings to me until now even though I was sensing this. To her, our marriage is over and there is no chance for recovery. She is determined to find her "happiness" somewhere else. All this time I thought I was providing her with all the happiness she wanted -- emotionally, mentally and physically. I don't drink, smoke, and I'm not abusive to her or the children. But for some reason I'm not worth a second chance. The problem is one of my biggest need is sex. She really states that she does not like to have sex and I needed at least twice a week. I compromise only asking weekend once a week. But, she feels that this makes her feel obligated. I feel very much rejected and resented.<P>She is ready to move out but I feel that she really does not have any work experience. It sounds like that she has a good plan for her to leave but it does not appear realistic. I'm living an emotional roller coaster. I never thought she would stop loving me. What can I do to save my marriage when she is so determined to be by herself. She tells me she wants to find her happiness with herself. What can I do? Any advice for what feels to be a hopeless case? I will always love her and do not want to lose her. <P>I wrote a letter to her that I am still in love and regret for this entire situation and aplogize that I was not meeting her needs.<P>P.S. Our marriage started with more love from me than her. In some way, this was an arranged marriage. I presumed that our love to each other were getting better but may be it was not.

Welcome <B>HHH</B>...<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It is geared to infidelity...<BR>...but can help in other cases as well.<P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://pages.ivillage.com/re/mb_nsr/MB_GW.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Many times hopeless cases are just that (mine was)...<BR>...but if you don't do everything in your power to save your marriage...<BR>...you will have regrets... deep ones...<P>Do start on Plan A...<BR>...it sounds like that's what you've been doing so far...<BR>...check out <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A> for some mechanics.<P>Prayers...<P> <P>Jim