<br>Well, my situation hasn't improved. My husband won't stop lying to me, about even the most inconsequential things. A good friend of his called last night. She is a licensed professional counselor. They've been friends since high school. Anyway, she and I talked about the things going on in the marriage, and she thinks that he has a serious psychological problem, possibly even needing inpatient care for about 3 months.<p>She asked me how high my tolerance is for abuse, and why is it so high? She also said that I need to put myself and our baby first. <p>My H. told me that he had talked to her last week and she referred us to the counselor that we had an appt. with today. When I spoke with her, she said that she hasn't spoken to him in months.<p>I asked him about this lie, and he said, "I told you last night that I had lied" , but that is a lie, too. He never told me. He said that he lied because he didn't think I would go to someone that he had picked out of the phone book. I told him that it wouldn't have mattered to me. But, today he told me that we won't be able to go to the counselor, because he is busy.<p>I don't think he ever made an appt.<p>I have tried to "hang on" and work on our marriage. But, no matter what, my husband won't stop lying, and I can't live with a liar.<p>I really don't see any alternative other than to end this nightmare. I am almost ruined financially, and I know that I have to be able to support myself and my daughter, because I'm sure that he won't pay anything after we split up.<p>Let me know what you think.<br>

Deanne,<p>Only you can know if the time is right. It sounds to me like you have put alot of effort into saving this marriage. You need to take care of yourself and your child. If staying would ruin things then it may be time to go. Maybe this final step will help him to see that he needs help. My thoughts are with you. Be strong and know that you gave it your all. <p>Steph

Wow, Deanne. I wish I could say something better for you than what Steph did. I wish I could give you some easy answers. You are facing something we all may face one day, and I do not envy you.<p>Although, given what you have said, I would probably have left long ago.....<p>God bless........

I truly feel bad for the three of you. All of you are experiencing pain. <p>My soon-to-be ex-husband had a drug problem (Ecstacy and smart-drugs). He also had extremely bad credit and wild spending habits. Our marriage ended quickly and I had a separate credit card, so I didn't get affected financially. Although, I feared that he would eventually ruin me financially.<p>Hopefully, you can protect yourself financially while working on the marriage. I assure you, it takes two to rebuild the relationship. <p>My soon-to-be ex-husband lied early and often. He explained that it was difficult (if not impossible) to accept blame for anything. For some reason he thought of mistakes as personal failures instead of opportunities to learn and grow.<p>If your H is not willing to get help, the situation will likely worsen.<p>You're in my prayers.