My SO of many years just left me; "I'm gone; there's nothing you can do"; has someone new already. Like Cooker said below, he was the center of my life (mistake) and now there's a big hole. It's like my right arm is gone; how do you get through the evening (the hours last forever) or the night without holding your loved one? How do you keep from giving in to the impulse to beg, plead, and debase yourself; how do you even keep breathing??? I've never felt grief like this before. I'm not angry; I understand (we had problems we couldn't solve) and still love him with all my heart; I just miss him so much I can't stand it and feel sure I'll never love again. I know you've all been there; please help.

Quandry,<BR>I'm sorry you are here... It's the hardest thing I've ever gone through too, but you will survive! <P>The first thing I would suggest is to do something for yourself... Call some friends and go out, get a facial, pamper yourself. Don't let the hole suck all the life out of you. It's hard to set aside the pain, even for a little while, but if you don't, it will overtake you. <P>I spent a lot of time painting my toenails, shopping and trying new hobbies.... something to keep my hands and my mind occupied. It doesn't take it all away, but it helps. I guess in a way, I was luckier than many.... my X worked most nights, so I was used to being alone in the evenings and on weekends. <P>I'm not saying to avoid your feelings, but don't let them take over your life.... dealing with them in small doses helps.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Butterfly<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>