<BR>I wonder today how many feel that they regret their decisions?<P>After reading several posts I can see that I was on a collision coarse with my ex.<BR>Thank you for opening my eyes!<P>You people can write some very powerful words sometimes and it is very inspirational.<BR>I look at my life now and i have no regrets.<BR>I know that being around him is smoothering and draining.<BR>Who needs that?<BR>I enjoy my life when he isn't around.<BR>I never actually realized this until recently.<BR>Thank you.

Not sure of your situation, breakup or divorce. When did you know you didn't regret your decision? I am struggeling with what is the RIGHT decision. Any kids involved in your situation?

Mine is a divorce.<BR>I have a child ....7 years old.<BR>My divorce was final in the summer of this year.<P>I chose to move on because I noticed after reading several posts in here that he doesn't fulfill my needs.<P>Everybody always came before me, whether it be associates, customers, or family.<P>My child and i were always of last consideration. He NEVER said he was sorry. He NEVER said that he would make it up... let alone would he even try.<P>I can count on my hand the number of times he did nice things for me.<P>I realized while trying to work things out with him that he lied more than i ever realized. That he is completely selfish. His needs always came first and if he got around to it we might spend 5 mintues on a situation concerning me. He can only hold the facsod for so long of being what i am looking for then he hurts me.<P>There was physical abuse, emotional abuse and not only on me but my child as well. While he never hit my child he never paid any attention did things one on one. <BR>I truly believe he doesn't even have a clue as to how to be a father.<P>He came to me a couple days ago and promised me church and forever, dinners and time together blah blah blah.<P>I have some things personal issues and issues ..these issues also concern my child or overlap with my child. VERY DEEP ROOTED.<P>I thought geeezz it might work and i have tried for 2 days to let him know what i discovered and where some of my anger comes from but he missed out because i know this now and i will heal now. He won't be a part of it and really why should he be.<P>I gave him more then enough chances before i told him i wanted to separate and afterwards.<P>I realize this must sound angry but really i am excited because now i can finally move forward with my life.<P>I won't have him putting me down or considering my feelings last or having to guess whether or not this time is the truth.<P>The sad part is that everyone says you should remain friends with your ex to keep a positive relationship for the sake of the children.<P>I can not do this because he doesn't respect either one of us enough to be honest or will he ever think to make a call.<P>I use to get tired of all his B>S but i have been realizing slowly that hell or high water this was the best decision i ever mad.<P>No regrets.<P>When he wasn't around after we separated i felt there was a future.<BR>When we tried working things out i felt no future.<BR>Once again i feel there is a future and i am more at peace.<P>He brings me down.<P>He has a great job and he likes to do things. But i feel smoothered by him.<BR>I would even go so far as to say held back.<BR>I'll NEVER make or have the money or material things that he has.<BR>But he'll never have the peace that i do. Or the family that i do.<BR>My child means so much to me that not even my best friend good come first.... not even my job.<P>My ex requires too much attention and now i have time to enjoy myself and be myself and relax.<P>I hope this helped.<BR>What about you?<BR>Are you divorced yet?<BR>Children involved?<BR>You started the whole thing?<BR>Counseling?<BR>remember you can only control your own actions in life. Take a big breath and exhale slowly. Then remember you are a good person, you are going to get threw this and bad days make you appreciate the good days.<P>take care of you.

<BR>Today I plan on making a diference.<BR>Since i can not change other people, i have choosen the best route possible.<P>ACCEPTANCE<P>It has freed me.<BR>I accept my life for what it is.<BR>I even wrote a letter to my ex thanking him for "releasing me".<BR>Why be around someone who hurts me?<BR>Life is too short for broken promises, lies and lack of character.<P>Life is what I make of it.<BR>So I have choosen to grab the bull by the horns and live my life the way i want.<BR>I left him a ear ago because he failed me in many ways.<BR>No regrets.<BR>He still fails me and our child today.<BR>I recognize this. I can not change this. So, I accept it and move on.<P>