Does this mean it is really over? He just sent me a list of lawyers from the internet?

this could be his way of trying to get things started.. yes.. it is an unfortunate harsh reality.. but that doesn`t mean it is over.. it is all just beginning, and will be a long!!! hall!! and many times of dispare to come.. so get ready for the roller coaster ride of your life!!! <P>but if I were you.. I`d send it back,"return to sender" and state inside, if he wants to really do this, he will have to do it him self, (nicely) and say, you still love him, and you will not be the one to file.. you are much more wiling to work on the marriage.. (that is a part of plan A)<P>(being that whom ever files, is the one to pay!!! the paper work!!)<P>sorry you are going through this horrible ordeal.. my divorce is almost over.. so it has been going on for a long time.. I remember so well though (like yesterday) the feeling that came over me.. and sometimes it still does...

How long did your divorce take? I understand there is something called mediation...if we can be civil, which we can, this is the way to go...

my divorce is going on two yrs now.. and still pending.. <P>My ex suggested mediation, but he was so adiment, I didn`t think that would be the way for me.. I felt I needed more protection.. some one that was working for just me, so he couldn`t take advantage.. I felt if we went the other route, we would have wound up with sep lawyers any way.. <P>It did not go well from the very beginning.. so it has been a long hall for me.. I hope for your sakes. (being you get along decently) it goes well for you.. <P>look for some one that is pro marriage.. and may help you two, to weed things out.. and not just do it for the financial business.. they have some that will help guild you in that direction.. but it may take interviewing a few, to do so.. <P>good luck to you..<P>AV