Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I've been relying heavily on this site to get me through these difficult times, it seems that they've been difficult all my life. My Mother seems to always have to bring up how bad it was for HER, and the things I've done regarding my marriage, and the last time I almost hung up on her. It doesn't take the pain away, the excrutiating hurt inside to get compared to others. It's like comparing one person who is going through an amputation, and dealing with all the issues there, and saying "yeah, but look at so and so , or me in the past, that should humble you" or whatever. It doesn't ease the pain. I really appreciate those here who are willing to lend a healing touch.<BR>The bottom line is WE ARE ALL HURTING PEOPLE. We got here through a myriad of paths, but the pain is very real, and we all can relate to the pain. It feels the same...gut wrenching, depression, anxiety, 'when will it ease?', etc. and I guess that is where we are trying to help each other cope to get to the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you again.

I believed for the last part of my marriage and recently that the relationship falling apart was my fault. I know now that i had my part but relationships take two. Without the willingness and opness of both people a relationship can not exist!<P>Do something everyday to help yourself, whether it be a walk or reading a book or doing something silly like going to the arcade.<P>Treat yourself.<BR>Be good to yourself.<BR>take care of you.<BR>