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I'm new to this. I've been married for 19 yrs to someone who suffers from severe depression/anxiety. He gets very angry and explodes. He will go for counseling off and on and take meds, but he always stops both and we go back to square one. We had the biggest blow-up last night. He told me he blames me for most of his problems. Says when I ask for him to help with chores or the kids, that I'm asking too much. I should tell you that over the years, I've taken all the parenting responsibilities and all the day-to-day ones as well. He doesn't even deposit his own paycheck. I told him I wanted out. He talked about suicide and scared me so I told him to stay. I feel like I am in a no win situation. Either way, I loose. Our kids are 18 and 14. I'm 37 and I feel like I'm dying. Any advise??
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Just because he won't stay in counseling doesn't mean that you can't go. I think you need some help sorting out your feelings and your options. This is too big a decision to make in haste. Maybe there is something a counselor could suggest that hasn't been tried? Maybe through talking to a counselor, you can see that this is long overdue and it can give you the strength to carry through with it? I'd keep your eyes and options open at this time.
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Sat,<P>Are you a fool? No, just a person in love with someone who has some serious problems of their own.<P>What can you do for him? Not much of anything I'm afraid. He has to want it and then do it for himself.<P>What can you do for YOU? A bunch! Possibly some counceling or a support group is the best option open right now. Regardless of how you do it, you need to take care of the impact these issues are having upon you.<P>After you've gotten yourself on an even keel and sorted out your feelings about the situation, you'll be able to make much better decisions concerning your future.
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