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WHEN DOES IT STOP.<BR> I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 1 YEAR AND THREE MONTHS AND IT HAS BEEN BAD. REALLY BAD LATELY<BR>I NEED SOME ADVICE.<BR>MY WIFE AND I HAVE A MAJOR COMMUNICATION PROBLEM SHE IS 20 AND I 22. WE ARE BOTH IN THE ARMY AND WORK REALLY CLOSE TO EACH OTHER <BR>I THINK SHE IS REALLY CONTROLING. EVERYTHING I DO SHE HAS TO SAY SOMETHING TO TRY TO GET ME MAD. I LISTEN TO A SONG SHE SAYS WANT BAND IS THAT I HATE THAT MUSIC. THEN I CAUGHT HER LISTENING TO THE SAME SONG WHILE AT WORK WITH HER FRIENDS. SHE WILL CALL ME AT WORK AND SAY THINGS THAT PISS ME OFF AND HANGS UP. I TRIED EVERYTHING WE GO TO CONSELING AND MAKE RULES LIKE NO PROFANITY, IF THE OTHER PERSON IS MAD WALK AWAY FOR AWHILE. NO NAME CALLING. AND SHE ALWAYS BREAKS THEM. TODAY SHE CALLED AT WORK AND SAID "I DONT WANT YOU" EVEN AFTER I TOLD HER THAT SHE CAN'T KEEP SAYING THAT ****. AFTER SHE SAYS THAT KIND OF STUFF SHE HANGS UP AND I CALLED HER BACK SAYING DO YOU REALLY MEAN THAT AND SHE SAYS I'M WORKING AND HANGS UP.<BR>I JUST CAN,T DEAL WITH IT NO MORE. SO I CALL AND SAY I'LL LEAVE HER. THEN SHE I LIKE NO DON'T LEAVE BUT I REALLY DON'T THINK SHE CARES ABOUT ME HOW DO GET HER TO UNDERSTAND THAT I MEAN BUSINESS. I FEELS LIKE I AM WALKING ON EGG SHELLS EVERYTIME I AM AROUND HER. AND I DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING NICE CAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE DON'T CARE AND I'M BEING TAKIN AVATAGE OF. <BR> PLEASE HELP <P>------------------<BR>SICK OF IT
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WOW<P><BR>That has got to be to the point of the ultimate frustration. ask her flat out "Do you love me" listen to her response, and then go from there. Alot of people on this board will vote for working it out, as I would, but I am telling you now. If you cannot even get her to follow the rules of counseling!!!! I dont mean drop it right away...........but If you cannot find out WHY she suddenly turned into this control person, ( I would even go so far as to say masochistic person.) Then you need to save yourself. Realize, I only know half the story also. I cant beleive if she is this controlling , there were not signs of it early on . If there wasnt, you need to dig further and find out what happened, she is obviously supressing some unspoken anger, and directing it other ways. Just my opinion, hope it helps
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