My (hopefully soon-to-be) ExH was here today. He's been moving his stuff out of the basement and was finished when he came up with this "great" idea of cutting wood for my woodstove. I went to see him and asked what he was doing ... He said that some people in town don't talk to him any more and give him "looks" (won't tell me who). Told him that it might not be because of what I've said to them and he agreed. So he wanted to know what I say to people and - just to get a reaction - tell him that I say that he's left because he didn't want the responsibility of looking after his wife and kids ... Guess he didn't like that. If it boils down to it, that why he left, but I don't tell people that. Anyone who knows him tells me that's why he left.<P>He said that if he didn't live up to his responsibility than what was he doing here right now. I asked him where he was last winter when we were freezing in the house b/c we had no furnace and the pellet stove wasn't warming the house, but instead of helping us he kept cutting down on the money he was giving me and I had to rely on a neighbour to buy pellets for me. He said that he was giving me too much money to begin with. <P>He said that I was "decent" to him this summer, not the way I was the past winter or am right now. I told him that I was "decent" because he stayed away from me and when I told him I didn't want/need his help he didn't just go ahead and did it anyway - like cut wood. He packed up and left without saying goodby to the kids.<P>Why should I think it's great that he's helping me, now that I've got a furnace coming and a woodstove when he kept staying away all last winter. He even came over one day and said to his dog "Come one let's go home where it's warm." Why should I appreciate his "kindness" now? He was the one who left us knowing that I had almost no money available with promisses of all this money he was going to give me and all these things he was going to do. I can't remember one promise he's kept in all the years I've known him, but I thought that he would keep the one about the money, because it would mean that his kids would be okay. I guess I expected too much of him.