Thanks for trying to help me. I visited that suggested web site, but I am not a Christian and I live in Croatia so these books are too expensive for me although I would like to read them. Last few month I tried with REIKI (I don't know if it is right spelled in English), I try and try but I still can't move on - besides you have hope for your H he would come to sence and realize that he loves you, and mine is so ocuupated with the OW so she is even more important to him than our YD, and he is so long in that affair so I can't see the hope for me that he would be back to me: old, not so attractive, too much educated and obviously not enough good and gentle and nice in every sence (especially sex) for him. Even my OD refuses contact with me, she much more likes OW, cause she is more fun, does not control her, leave her freedom to do what she wants...<BR>Did you ever hear that such a long affair (it seems to me that they become more and <BR> more happy) can end in reconciliation with the spouse? <P>------------------<BR>dv

DV,<BR>Did you read the testimonies on that web site? There are a lot of stories of marriages<BR>being restored after OW have been around a long time.Even if you are not a Christian they will give you hope!What have you got to <BR>loose?<BR>gentle<BR>