I am at the end of my rope. My husband of 4 months has suddenly began to drunk states that I can explain. He calls it darkness. I have caught once when he was in darkness masturbating on the phone to a woman he met on a dateline. He told me to be quiet so the woman would not hear me.He did not remeber the next day. It was the eve of his birthday and I was and still am so shaking that I do not know what to do. I just want to know if there is anyone who is going through something similar or someone who has any advice. Besides leaving him.