one last new topic for today.............<P>I cant beleive I am so hooked on this site, I hope I am not becoming addicted.

nikkilynn,<P>LOL LOL Don't feel bad! I've been here everyday except for 3 since last December 26th! LOL LOL It is very hard to not check in, post or reply. Or even just to read! <P>Mitzi

Yes, it is.<P>Something about the help and advice you get in here is very addictive when you are going through something like this. There are people in here who will never know how much their care, prayers and advice have helped me. I'm sure I wouldn't be doing as well now without them.<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

Not so much as addictive as it is helpful!<P>Don't know if I would have the courage to go and sit in a divorced support group with strangers, then completely open up to them...Well guess what? - all of you are my support group. It is so easy to open up and write from my heart here on the site.<P>I work with the Internet for a living and am often disgusted when I hear about all the evil that exists on it. And I am so overjoyed when I find sites like this one out there - Believe me when I tell you all that I often find myself talking with others "offline" about things we write of here - and I am sure to pass along this site to whoever may need it!<P>I can not tell you how much I have learned from reading and writing. What I enjoy even better are the debates that often appear. I think I learn more when someone disagrees with me, than I do when everyone concurrs.<P>Thanks all!<P>MIke

Well, Mike<P><BR>I have to say I learned more about my marriage by writing it down here and discussing it with you. I have told my friends about this site, and told them it is kind of like a journal for me.I also enjoy the debate !!! I told you at the beginning I wasnt a quiet martyr, am a big mouth!!!!!

Nikki,<P>When I first got here, I was checking it every couple of hours and answered to everyone!!!!<P>I wish I still had time to do that. Not that I had time then, I just shut myself out from the rest of the world. I didn't go outside for almost a month after discovery.<P>Even now that I am divorced, and falling in love again, I won't ever leave this place too far behind because I do believe there were people here for me at a time in my life when my friends and family had no clue what I was going thru.<P>I hope that as I grow stronger and wiser I can be there for some of the new people who come here after me.<P>Dont' worry, you'll outgrow it, just a little!!!<P>hugs,Dana<BR>

I am where Dana was, checking in to see what replies I might have and replying, especially to those who have only a small number or no replies at all, I know how important it is for me to see on my mail that I have a message, as I said on my message I was sitting there like some zombied out idiot hoping to see my number on the replies go up. It is sort of addictive but its a good addiction to have I feel.<P>Thinking of all of you out there who are hurting<P>------------------<BR>karen