latly my wife has been in contact with two of here former lovers. I read one letter which talked about them getting togetor during Christmas break. I have said nothing to my wife as I am waiting to see if says " I going to visit one of my friends". I only wish this was it however it is not. My wife has also now set up a e-mail address that I am now unable to access. I can only wonder and it's that combination that is driving me crazy. Any advice on how to approach this problem

dear clubking,<br>i feel for you. My wife also changed her password on her email. i do not know what she is saying or doing. you wife is looking out for herself you need to to. Tell her that if she goes then she should stay there. The only way to have a marriage is with complete honesty. there should be no lies,no private e-mail accounts, no talking to ex-lovers. you do not know what she is saying in the email but she is hiding it from you thus it is not something she wants you to hear. You know why that is . On one hand she tells you she is not keeping any secrets from you by telling you about the account but on the other she won't let you see it. She is cheating on you. She has done it in the past and she will do it in the future. Without complete openness and honesty there can be no trust. Tell her that you want a seperation and leave. Only by standing up and saying no will she understand