Yes, well that was a stinger, wasn't it?<P>As I have said before, you're having a day hon. Wallow in it for a while. I call it finding out the meaning of loneliness--walking with it and embracing it. Some days, ya just jump in with both feet. If you need a lifejacket let us know, and when you feel better or need a new box of lotion kleenex, let us know.<P>Just keep it in the back of your head that we love ya!<P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

a{{{{{{{{{{cinderella}}}}}}}<P>I know I'm late on the subject, but had to come in and say hi. I certainly hope NO ONE leaves the MB site. <P>This is my first holiday without my ex. First holiday divorced. First holiday where I have to share my kids. I cry once a day again and I honestly can't name a specific reason why. I think its a combination of "it all" and the burden I feel from an ex who left his family on xmas.<P>I am also in the middle of a serious relationship that is going so well, I could have only imagined it in my dreams. I just sit and wait for something bad to happen. I feel like I'm doomed either way. Only this time, its even worse, cuz I don't want to lose someone so wonderful . Look how bad I took it when I lost someone who treated me like crap for years.<P>So you hang in there girlfriend. These holidays are getting to us all and they aren't even here yet. As for leaving, don't leave, if anything take a break , (if you feel you need one), otherwise, lets just Plan A each other for the next 4 weeks and remember that we all are in pain and we all react different to that pain.<P>I am sorry I don't have time to read these "questionable threads" cuz I need some cheering up, and that kind of stuff would do it. I'm sorry that [censored] was offended, but I think he got flamed too and I think that he got to speak his opinion just as others have and we can all respect each other for standing up for ourselves. I know I've done it a few times, and in the end, I still didn't understand it all.<P>Your a great person, and you would be missed , so don't go anywhere!!!<P>Hugs, Dana<BR>

I think that cinderella has touched on something I've been struggling with. It's ok to feel bad. We're supposed to. If we didn't feel bad about this sometimes, it would mean we weren't feeling anything.<P>My friends & family are having a hard time with my occasiional down times, but they are normal & natural. I accept them as inevitable and I let then run their course.<P>So if you feel bad cinderella, go ahead. We're in here for you, just like you've been there for us....<P>{{{{{cinderella}}}}}<P><P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

I cant wait till the halftime show Mike......<P><BR>Nice thoughts to ponder, it is easy to dwell on the bad things, but I am thankful for all I have. I need to remember that even though this is hard , I am lucky as hell to have a stbx that wants to spend time with the kids, and they are dealing well, so far. I also am thankful that I finally have a sense of peace in my life. Good luck and prayers to all who are in need this holiday season.

Cinderella, <P>I know where you are, and sometimes youthink you are over the hump and then all comes crashing in on you! I have had a few days like that lately, too. Sometimes I will just sit and cry, and I am not really sure why. <P>You know, I had this cancer scare this fall. I was really feeling sorry for myself and a co worker got sick as well. He has Hodgeskins disease, and that can be fatal! It really put my woes in perspective for me. <P>Just know that we will all get through this, in our own way, and sometimes the sorrow makes us stronger for things to come. And we are all here for you!!<P>------------------<BR>Susan

You guys are the greatest! Today we have a new day and, unlike yesterday, I feel like I will survive. <P>This morning I was combing my son's hair and he asked about when he'd see his dad again. (My favorite subject, not) I told him that I knew he was excited and that it made me feel very sad because I knew I wouldn't see him over the weekend. And, bless his heart, he said, "Well, you'll get a rest from the tussle." God bless those children. <P>Shirley didn't call about the tutu bodices so I suppose that was an imaginary crisis. But I did have nightmares over it Sunday night. Lately, all the dreams I've been remembering have been horrible stuff. I finally get back in a going-to-bed mode and start having bad dreams. <P>I shall survive.<P>Thanks for being there. Don't go away. We're all going to need each other during the next few weeks!<P>((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))<BR>

Hi Cinderella,<P>I've been "away," so busy with work, haven't had a minute to do any of the important stuff, like this...<P>I know how the holidays magnify emotions, yep, even with things going well, I still feel a sadness and frustration with how thing SHOULD have been. <P>Glad to see you are doing better today, my anniversary is tomorrow - I still get sad then.<P>I completely agree with you about allowing yourself time to be sad - that is normal.<P>Hope your Thanksgiving day goes well, and that the month leading up to Christmas keeps you so busy that you don't have time to be sad. <P>This will be my first Christmas that I will be decorating the house like I have done in years past - don't need to turn on any lights, there are so many christmas lights up. I start decorating the day after Thanksgiving. Time to start creating new memories, a joyful season coming up.

Yeah!!! I'm glad you are feeling better today!<P>This will be my first completly "solo" Christmas.... and my second NY. Last year I put up a few lights outside, but that was all.... this year, I think I might just have to overhaul my tiny living room, and find a tiny tree to fit. For some reason, I actually feel like putting up a tree this year.... I guess I'm healing.<P>Hey, maybe we could all get together for a Cyber Holiday/Winter Party! <P>Hugs & Smooches,<BR>Butterfly

Hey, Butterfly, good idea!<P>I'll wear my cyber ball gown! <P>Can we have a cyber caterer and a band?<P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Just have it at a time when I can be there.

Hi girls,<P>Here's to making NEW MEMORIES!<P>Thanksgiving will find me on the run. Stopping only long enough to eat a meal "I don't have to cook"!!!! My son and daughter-in-law are doing the honors. This year as I am moving into my newly gutted and remodeled "bachlorette pad". My very own home and I did it, manual labor and ALL!!! My daughter is due with her first baby any day now! We are all rolling with the flow and thankful we can eat a meal together and know we are loved by one another. <P>Glad to see you are doing better today Cinderella!!!!! .....remember how her story ended!!! (I could ever be so lucky!!!)<P>Ragamuffin

There are surely a lot of princely men here. But, I am still thinking that, when the time is right, the right prince will come along. Until then, however, I'll just have to be a princess all on my own. And, I am joyful that I am no longer that quivering mess that I was to start with. Just like the girl in the story.

Don't you just hate PMS. Think that was part of my funk. And last night I saw the tutus I had the nightmares about. They are safe and sound. All the other costume moms got a kick out of my nightmares. Word got around without my seeing any of them. <P>So, I'm going to survive. Unless things change, it's me and the cats tomorrow afternoon - after x takes my babies to his new wife's family in Ohio. And no computer to talk with y'all for 4 whole days

{{{{{cinderella}}}}}<P>I'm sorry about you losing your babies. My STBX has left the dog with me temporarily, I will miss him terribly if she decides to take him away. (he's cooler than a LOT of people I know)<P>I'm sorry you're going to be spending Thanksgiving alone. Is there anyone you can go visit? Maybe a movie? I think it might be good if you plan to get out of the house for awhile & go someplace, anyplace.<P>Take care, my thoughts will be with you especially this weekend, along with all my other MB castaway friends....<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

My mom is in town this Thanksgiving. She's been in Florida for years on this holiday. Last year, right after Christmas she lost her honey - the love of her life - so she'll need me. But sometimes, as we all know, it's hard for the broken-hearted to be around each other. My sister and her family are here also but that's another story. We do some holidays. Sunday afternoon we'll probably be at her house. <P>I have curtains I need to make. A house I need to clean. A tree I could put up. There's plenty to do. But I have a hard time finding peace to do what I want to do because there's so much I need to do. ANd there's so much to do that I often can't get any of it done because I am overwhelmed by the choices. Does that make sense.<P>But, I have survived worse years than this. And I will survive again.

Cinderella,<BR>It makes perfect sence to me! That is my life! LOL<BR>Smooches,<BR>B<BR>

Well, after a lot of frustration and a trip back to the store to buy another string of new lights, I got the stupid tree up. My mother thinks it's gorgeous. She thinks it needs to be photographed. I hope the cats don't shred my 300+ origami animals on it. And I made them all. It's taken me a year to do it.