H returned to ow for the third time. I found out yesterday during lunch. Left new job crying-hope I still have it on Monday. I haven't worked in 14 years so I'm not the most up-to-date person in the world when it comes to office electronics. <P>I went to attorney and signed a Separation agreement as I am ill and need h's medical coverage. When divorced he'd drop me from the coverage and I can't get coverage from my new job just yet. Yesterday the agreement was fine but he was drunk. Today it was not. Daughter and I tried to stay gone all day. When we got home, he was raging mad. Tore the papers up and threw them in my face as they were not "divorce" papers. I again explained the insurance reasoning as my attorney told me to do. He got mad as my physical ailments were listed as well as my inability to make much money because of my disabilities. He told me I would not get one red cent from him, no child support, no alimony. I told him it was up to the judge and of course he replied it didn't matter.<P>He then became angrier as I could possibly take his "stud mobile" from him. He spent way too much money on it to impress her. He still needs to impress her and a significant reduction in his value will hurt their relationship as it is based solely on money. Deep in his heart he knows this. He's 14 years older, has drank for so long that he shakes and has gained about 40 pounds during all of this. I talked with her yesterday and she told me she wasn't interested in him-she wanted her husband (along with any other man who can get her what she wants.) When I told him what she said over the phone there was just silence. <P>His world is falling apart and he doesn't know what to do. Daughter wants nothing more to do with him, he has no family except a father in a nursing home who probably doesn't know which planet he's on-bless his heart, and the love of his life may not be worth all of this. <P>Anyway, I need advise on this. Is it typical for them to refuse to pay any money when it comes down to the divorce? He's talked about it for so long and I think he thought I would never do it. I think he wants a family but to be able to date her too. I called her husband yesterday and I'm sure that put a wet blanket on my h's relationship with her. He told me this afternoon that he would not sign the Separation Agreement. I told him there was nothing for him to sign-just a copy of what I signed. He's backed himself into a corner with no way to get out. Is this typical? What can I expect next?

There could be a lot more anger...<BR>...and more risk of you losing any form of livelihood.<P>You may have had an OK attorney for the separation...<BR>...If you need to <B>protect</B> yourself legally (and/or financially)... I usually make the recommendation of finding a <B>good</B> attorney. A good place to start off is at the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A> site. Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counseling free of charge.<BR><A HREF="http://www.uslaw.com" TARGET=_blank>USLaw.com</A> (an alternative search site)<P>I'm praying for you...<P> <P>Jim