My wife tells me that she has no feelings for me and doesn't know if she ever has.We have been married for 15 years,the last year or so she has made new friends all 10 to 15 years younger(she is 33)one a guy she spends a lot of time with when I told her I didn't like all the time she spends with him we got into a fight and she told me he was more important than our marriage.That was a year ago since then she moved to town for about 6 months but would somtimes come home at night for supper with me and our kids (15 & 9) then go back to her house.She is back at home now and I've been moved to the couch.She doesn't want me to touch her or even to tell her that I love her I ask what she wants me to do or if we can go to counseling together she says no that she likes things just the way they are.Idon't like what this is doing to me and our kids,any help would be great.<br><br> THANKS

It is certain that she is having an affair. I would talk to a lawyer, then kick her out on her a**. Sorry if I'm being somewhat harsh, I've had a bad day and am really angry regarding my own situation. Best of luck. snooperhubby@hotmail.com

Rel,<p>Snooperhubby's advice is great if you're looking for a divorce. If you're interested in a divorce, I suggest that you hire a PI and lawyer and build a case on physical evidence before you boot her out the door.<p>But if you want to save your marriage, I'd read 'Surviving the Affair' which is available on this website. Also follow all the advice here: you probably need to start identifying and eliminating lovebusters first.<p>It's a tough situation: I do agree with snooperhubby that your wife is probably having an affair. There are ways to make it through it and save your marriage (and make it great). This takes time and energy, and it'll take a real effort on your part at first. I'd look to get into marriage counseling immediately, even by yourself.