Hello everyone,<BR>H and I are in the middle of mediation for temporary support.H is ling with internet OW and 2OC"s.H has been known to lurk and post here.<BR> Even tho I am supose to be on plan B,I emailed H several times briefly about childrens grades,birth of new family,ect.<BR>I was really hurt when H blocked my email.<BR>Not only have I lost my spouse,but I have lost my friend of 19 years, if he is not willing to hear about children, it makes it difficult for him to co-parent children.All the information he will get will be from chidren,and of course not all information gets past(esp.negative behavior) <BR> I had signed emails to H ,love and prayers,Beth.<BR>Any suggestions? I could phone him,but emotionally that is hard on me,and I feel uncomfortable.<P> Prayers,beth<BR>Perhaps that was a LB.

LOL, Sorry about typing errors,h living with 2 OC's.I wish it was 20!!!Also hope when I sign Prayers,it does not offend anyone.<P> Bethn

Beth...<P>Dear Beth...<P>Stay strong in Plan B!<P>It's OK to send prayers to your H...<BR>...Plan B isn't about hating your spouse!<BR>...it's about adapting to being without!!!!<P>You have my prayers...<BR>...always will!<P>-----------------------------------<P>Beth's H...<BR>...you can e-mail me anytime...<BR>...at one time you did...<BR>...need someone to bounce off a few ideas?<P> <P>Jim

Jim,<BR>Thanks for responding!Hate to be in a self pity party,but this is hardest thing I have been thru.I am trying to be strong,have turned to God.I cannot thank everyone at this MB site enough,I dont know what I would have done without all the support and advice.<BR> Praying for you Jim,as well as all other betrayed spouses here at MB.Bethn

Beth,<BR>My question to you, is why are you emailing h about the kids. Isn't that his responsibility to find out?<P>Thats the tact I've taken with my x. I give her copies of the kids sports schedules, but that is it. It is her responsibilities to find out how the kids are doing either by asking me or them. I don't hide things from her but I don't volunteer them either.<P>It was her choice to leave the family, so thats whats comes with the territory IMO. I used to leave the kids school work out for her to see but she quit looking at them a long time ago so I throw away what is not needed to be saved. I don't think she has physically seen the kid's report card since last year. She is aware of their grades as she was disappointed that D got a C.<P>There may be those that disagree, but I don't speak about my x to the kids. They will have to make their own decisions about her. If she loves them she sure has a funny way of showing it. I saw in someone's post that they tell their kids that they still love the WS and that the WS loves the kids and I disagree with that. That is the WS responsibility to make sure that the kids know they love them. US telling them that they do and then their(WS) action surely tells them something different.<P>I suppose the kids age is important. My kids are 10 and 13. They don't seem to miss their mother and don't make special efforts to get to see her. They haven't asked me any hard questions so far.<P>You are now alone trying to save your marriage and maintain the kids relationship with their father. I don't think you can do both.<P>Hang in and God Bless,<P>Bob

Bob,<BR>Thanks for responding.Yes it is his responsibilty to find out,but he does not phone me,and I know the kids arent going to tell him negative things.(That might blow their chance of getting some money or gifts from him.) They are 15,and 17.<BR> Not that my kids are bad,but they are not angels either.Perhaps he prefers to remain oblivious,since the kids were one of his reasons for leaving. <BR> Take care ,Bethn