Bill,<P>Thanks for your response. To answer your questions: The affair became physical and has been going on about a year - I found out about it 6 months ago. I have read two books on infidelity. We have separated three times. Each time he came back and promised to give up the woman but he couldn't. There are other problems - he has a drinking problem. I think that is how it happened. He drinks at night while on the internet and you know alcohol lowers inhibitions and impairs judgment. He may not have meant to become involved and, if not under the influence of alcohol, he may not have been tempted. It's over and it's so sad to think of all the happy years we had together. But he is not the same man I married. I need to heal the pain and move on with my life and maybe eventually find a new relationship. I am so overwhelmed with how much needs to be done - the legal issues as well as probably selling the house and moving plus changing jobs. Well, I don't have to do it all today! It helps to share with others who are experiencing the same pain. One day at a time. I have been seeing a couselor at work since July. She has provided support and helped me keep my sanity. <P>Best wishes for you, Bill. Where are you in the divorce process?<P>God Bless.

CB,<P>I just checked your profile, anotha suthriner! LOL<P>If you can reconcile in your mind that you exhausted every means to save your marriage the Godspeed to your recovery...<P>I would suggest that while you travel this road of divorce to take along hard look at what you brought to the demise of your marriage.<P>I know I share in my wife leaving...In spite of her flaws and cheating I owned my share and what I did to cause her to seek comfort in another.<P>I am 40 some days from my D being final. I did all I could to recincile my marriage and in the process lost all the love I feel for my wife and know for a fact I could never be married to her any longer.<P>Oh FYI : you can continue this thread by simply clicking Post Reply, that way you won't have to start a new topic every time <P>Have a great day! <P>Bill<BR>