Well,<P>big hugs to you all, and I hope you all have a nice day. (I thought I'd get that in early, coz I just re-read this post, and it's a downer!!!)<P>today's Wednesday, by this time next week I'll be officially divorced. I almost can't breathe just thinking that.<BR>I never ever thought it would come to this. I really did think he would come back. We had so much going for us.<P>We had a chat 2 nights ago, after a huge arguement on the phone about the children. He was at my house babysitting, and when I walked in after work, I just gave him a hug. We chatted about co-parenting effectively, and he has agreed to go to counselling so we can do that effectively. At least that's a start. He also asked about the court appearance. He asked whether I was going. I replied that I HAD to. I asked whether he was going to attend. He said he didn't want to, and he had the saddest look on his face. I replied that I didn't want to go either, but I had no choice. Then he left.<P>I still believe with all my heart that he does not want this divorce. He is not happy with his life as it stands now. But how long do I let myself ride this rollercoaster. He has shown absolutely no sign of wanting to come home. He has told me that he is happy with his life as it is now. I guess I just have to believe him. But he never seems happy.<P>I went through the agonies of "do I, don't I" about a month ago. I was so close to ringing my solicitor and telling her to hold off on the divorce. Then he started spending so much time with his new girlfriend and my children, playing happy families, introducing her to his family and our friends etc etc etc.<P>I just told myself to read the writing on the wall. It's over.<P>I think by this time next week I'll have a raging hang-over, but at least I won't be on the rollercoaster any longer.<P>thanks for listening<P>big hugs to you all, and hope you all have a nice day<P>Jo

bonnet,<P>Hang in there! You will be in my prayers over the next week. Whatever happens, you have done your best - know that! One person can not fix a marriage, sad but true.<P>Keep strong.<BR>Mike

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Jo}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Just wanted say "Love ya!" <P>Hey!!! You see about deadheading into Nashville and hanging with us!!<P>Bill

Jo...<P>I sorry things didn't work out.<P>My divorce too will come...<BR>...but unlike your's...<BR>...my W hasn't shown any remorse at any time.<P>Praying for you...<BR>...BTW...<P>...<B>You are loved</B>... <P>Jim

{{{{{{{{{{bonnet}}}}}}}}}}<P>Sigh...<P>wish I had some words of wisdom...<P>{{{{{{{{{Jo}}}}}}}}}}<P><P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

Bonnet,<P>I am so sorry that we are all going through this.. but I am right behind you.. My divorce should be final any day now.. (the courts have ordered another adenment to be signed, so it is being delayed ONCE AGAIN! for a bit longer)<P>I don`t know how long it has been for you, but it is 2 yrs for me.. I delayed things for as long as I could in the beginning.. but after 6 mths or so I gave up.. then of course negociations took forever...! and I still see that my ex has no remorse..<P>I am tired of it all, and now I just want this over with too..<P>know that you are not alone.. <P>{{{HUGS}}}<BR>AV <P> <P>

{{{{{{{{{{{Jo}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR>Oh, Honey, I don't know what to say.... I don't have any words of wisdome, I know it hurts.<P>You are in my thoughts & prayers.... hang in there girl!<P>Dawnetta<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

{{{Jo}}}<P>Understand where you are at perfectly. This whole process really bites the big one, whether the writing was on the wall or not, it's just difficult. I think of everyone in this D/D board all the time, a wonderful feeling group who certainly don't deserve the pain that causes us to be here.<P>Keep your chin up and a prayer in your heart; it's said there is ALWAYS a reason, it's just finding it that makes things harder.<P>Lori

Hi everyone,<P>thank you so much for your support. I appreciate it more than you know. Actually, you guys probably do know how much I appreciate each and every one of you. I think we all feel the same way!!<P>Have a nice day, and big hugs for you all<P>Jo

Bonnet,<BR>I am so sorry you are going thru this .You are not alone.Wish there would be something I could say to make it better.Praying for you. Beth