Well, STBX is moving out of the house, she got an apartment and is leaving in stages. Most of her stuff is gone. I am staying at a friends, until my apartment is open up east. I heard from a friend that she was moving this past weekend, she neglected to tell me. Her parents came to help her, so Friday instead of getting cleaned out I took the offensive and collected my things, a bed, my stereo, my tools, mostly things we talked about that I would keep, she can have the rest. We had started to make lists, but the unemotional way my STBX was going over them really drove me nuts.<BR> I really just want her out. She is still living in the house, guess her folks will come back to move the furniture this coming weekend.<BR>I went and saw a counselor Saturday, I'd seen her twice before. STBX refused to go when I asked if she would so we could get closure. The counselor figures, that I am capable of a long term loving relationship. That my STBX is not, probably never had been. That my STBX is very external, always wanting a new hobby, interest, purchase, always something outside to make her happy. Counselor told me STBX will probably not accomplish 10% of the things she wants to do in life, she never really applies herself at one thing, so by spreading so thin on so much she accomplishes little. That's not a hit just a observation. That she is incapable of looking in herself for happiness. Looking in scares the hell out of my STBX. That STBX's version of a good marriage is her parents. They are way off. Her mom is essentially the head of the household, constantly berating her husband, he probably does not feel he deserves better, he abused my STBX as a little girl. That is going to be a long term problem for her. <BR> I still care, I try not too, but it's hard. The counselor told me as much, that I had depth, character, and that would make this hard for me. Oh well I guess that is why my STBX feels so little. It didn't mean the same to her. Once the honeymoon was over, she found marriage was a two way street, that she wouldn't always get her way, like she did as an only child. Well now I see why she is clinging to her parents so much. They'll give her everything she needs just like when she was little. In effect she still is a little girl. Heck she asked for a divorce, I filed and she got mad. Right now I'm doing all the extranious BS like closing accounts, cable, house sale, etc. Well I'm tired of her act, her manipulation. NO MORE!!<P>What really hurt me was when her mother called me an abuser. That was too much. She browbeats the hell out of my STBX's dad. Probably starting way back when father in law abused STBX as a girl. STBX's mother has become the queen B@#ch where she gets whatever she wants. It's twisted how they justify their actions. I never abused my wife, never. I may have argued, but I never touched her, never berated who she was as a human being. In fact I have almost always been supportive of her goals, that was one thing I liked about her she had ambition. I only questioned why she was doing this walkout on the marriage. When she could see I would do anything to fix things.<BR>Time to go, my counselor told me to keep moving forward. I will, it hurts too much to look back. The counselor also said STBX would probably call in a few months, when she gets lonely. It almost makes me wretch when she calls now. I am trying to not think about that. I have a great job with a good future. For a while I'm just gonna bury myself in the new job. When I have time off I'm going to do 1 new hobby, mountain climbing. I'm 30, 165lbs 6' and in great shape, so I figure as a goal by 35 I'll climb Denali in Alaska. I visited CO 2 weeks ago and loved it. So I have a future. I'm not going to look for anybody to share my life with right now, just a few friendships that's all. The X, well I just don't care what she does. When I move I'm going to change my phone to an unlisted #. Already changed the e-mail account. I want no contact with my X when this is done.<BR>