I just don't understand my H. He is continuing on with his OW for over a year now. I filed for divorce last Oct '99 and since then I have put it on hold until April of this year. He just wouldn't stop seeing the OW or lying etc. So now that he actually has to do some legwork for the divorce to move ahead he is mad and is dragging his feet. He has been asked for his statement of net worth for months now and almost went to jail because he wouldn't do it. Finally he has done it and is suppose to sign it today. What I still don't get is why he gets upset and even angry because he has to do this. Does he think that I would just take care of everything and he could just sign on the dotted line. I would think that he would be anxious to get it over with as he calls it to be with the OW all the time not just a night here and there. She now has a new home of her own thanks to her mommy and daddy so I don't know why my H doesn't move in with her if things are so bad around here until the divorce is final. In the meantime it is taking its toll on me having to live like this. I try or at least for the last week or two to not even ask where he has been if he doesn't come home. I use to ask and get upset and cry etc. LB I know but it has been very hard for me to get to a point where I can bite my tongue and go on. I just in a way wish he would move in with the OW. It would eleviate a lot of stress on me knowing for sure he wasn't coming home and it would let them see each other in a normal world 24/7 with all that it brings.

bc, <P>I'll be blunt, but I don't want this to hurt you. Your H is dragging his feet and acting like this because he is not facing reality. He is in romantic fantasy land, and he does not have to face any of the destruction he has caused, his financial responsibilities, or anything. In his little fantasy world, all that matter is the he is "in love" and "she understands me." <P>Unfortunately, you and I have our feet a little more on earth and realize that he HAS destroyed lives, that he does have financial obligations, and that the OW has her period and PMS also! <P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{bc}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I'm sorry he's hurting you.<P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.