I am working at the Elementary my children attended. Everyone knows me by Mrs., but now that I am divorced, am I a Ms?<P>Can I still be a Mrs? Maybe I do not want to be.<P>Another questions if any of the guys read this. First, I am not looking for a H, but there is this guy that I know. I know his Xwife too. She left over 2 years ago and he just got divored this last May. I was divorced in Sept. (My exH was gone for almost a year) So anyway, his girls are real protective of him. Their Mom is living with someone and has been for a long time. I went to the local girls college basketball game and he happened to be there without his girls. He came and sat by me, we had great conversation...ect...well anyway tonight he is there with his girls and did not say a word to me, though I did not talk to him either. (Are you making sense of all of this)<P>Well, I do not want to be obivious or pushing and I would not bother him with his girls...but can you give me your take on this? <P>maybe it is easier to stay home and watch a movie..LOL<P>Thanks

OK,<P>next time you see him at a game and he is alone, go over and talk with him.<P>ask him how his girls are doing, etc, and maybe you can get a clue about his relationship with his girls.<P>But don't read in anything other than he was being friendly once, and maybe he feels the same about not looking for a wife.<P>just be friendly and meet people, no intentions, and don't read anything into <BR>casual encounters. it isn't worth the time.<P>WIFTT<P>

First of all, you can be Ms. Mrs. or Miss; any of them are appropriate. Basically it is whatever you are comfortable with.<P>As far as the your friend goes...there is nothing pushy about talking to someone. Going up to someone and striking up a conversation does not mean, in any shape or form, that you are looking for another H. I'm sure he is feeling as awkward as you are. It has been a long time for most of us since we interacted witht the opposite sex. I would suggest to be yourself; I doubt he will think you are seducing him at a basketball game; most likely he will be pleased you spoke to him.<P>

Hi m3k,<P>good post. I was wondering EXACTLY the same thing about me this morning. I still haven't decided.<BR>My credit card still has Mrs, my drivers licence still has Mrs, my bank details and all my bills still refer to me as Mrs....<P>what's a divorced girl to do ??????????<P>I think that eventually I'll get around to changing everything to Ms. I don't like that, but as I'm not a Mrs. any longer, I don't really have any choice.<P>And my take on most things these days is this ... what difference does it make !!!!!<P>It made no difference to him that he was married with two beautiful children, so why should I worry about what to call myself..<P>Do what feels best for you. Maybe do nothing for a while, and see how you feel in a couple of weeks.<P>Have a great Sunday, and hugs to you<P>Jo

Being a suthren gentlmen(ok I try to be )<P>The proper Suthren term is Miss My3kids...<BR>No sir name apendage...<P>Since in my case my ex is no longer Mrs. C as I will be getting my name back from her...<BR>I assume she will be Ms. C(her maiden name also begins w/C)...<BR>Then if she holds true to form will be Mrs. LRB...<BR>That may prove interesting as she teaches 5th grade...<BR>Excuse me...Mrs. Little Rat [censored]...May I go to the bathroom? LOL LOL<P>As far as the guy goes...I see nothing wrong with saying a friendly hello...<BR>He may be nervous around his girls, and a little protective of their emotions...<P>Bill<p>[This message has been edited by WilliamJ (edited December 10, 2000).]

He may view his time with his girls as exactly that - his time with his girls. Don't read anything into it. <P>As to your title, choose. I personally have just changed my last name. Kept his at the time of the divorce because I didn't want to go back to my maiden name (didn't like the name plus I had real issues with dad's brothers - disparity in how they treated my cousins, my sister, and me). So, I looked at the family tree and chose another last name. Anyway, I've not answered real well to my last name for several years and I'm having real trouble getting used to this new last name. Doing business in two names is confusing me. <P>Be what you wish. I'm sure there are etiquette rules. Miss Manners could tell you what is "right". All I know is, don't me Mrs. his name. <BR>

Thanks everyone for you replies. I just don't know what to do.<P>Some of the teachers who know call me Ms, some Miss and some forget and call me Mrs. I guess you can be a Mrs. after you are married and divorce...but not before being married...geez.<P>I think I would perfer being call Ms. I think I am too young for the Miss title. But I don't think I want to act like I am married and use Mrs. either.<P>To go back to the guy thing at the basketball game. I guess I could have gone over and said Hi, but I did not want to seems forward...I am just so recently divorced ...and so out of the loop as to what is forward or not when you are single again. I did not have to worry when I was married because I would be off limits...but now...<P>This is so...new...weird...ect ect...but he is a very nice man I enjoy talking to...but I do not want to scare him away thinking I am after him either. I just enjoy his friendship.<P>Thanks to all...(there is another game this Wed..and yes I will there) LOL

I'm wondering the same thing because I work at the school too and the kids ask me my name. I'm someone who won't have kids call me by my first name, but now what do I tell them?<P>All I can go by is that Mrs. is a title. I thought the proper thing was that once you have a title, it's always yours. Like the presidents - Reagan isn't in office anymore but he still retains the title President Reagan. Doesn't mean you CAN'T change it if you can't stomach it...just that it's completely appropriate to leave it alone.<P>I'll probably leave it alone because that's how most of my kids' friends know me and I don't need waves in their lives. Same reason why I didn't change my name back to my maiden.<P>Besides it probably ticks the OW off that I'll always be the real Mrs. *** and she'll just have to deal with it if they get married. To all our relatives, I'm the real thing, the legitimate one. She's a joke. <P><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

This is just my two cents worth, but my real first name is Cindy (my good friends and buds call me CJ), so I have the kids at school call me Miss Cindy. These days, the children are not always polite so as to call me Ms. X or Mrs. X, and I do not like to be called just by my first name by children. Soooo....I adopted the old southern habit of calling a lady, Miss X. I like it because it's a little respectful (and it makes me feel young) and the kids like it because they don't have to remember my last name and whether I'm married and all that other stuff. I will be Miss Cindy until I'm 95yo!<P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Hi my3k,<P>Long time no see <P>I go by Miss. I actually like it! <P>I am thinking the school kids, this year, will continue with Mrs, but next year, you can ask them to call you Miss. I personally get offended by anyone calling me Mrs.<P>Then again, I answer the phone and people ask to talk to my mom. I tell them, I AM THE MOM here!!!<P>Whats the big deal about the friend?? Go talk to him!!! Its not so bad, it gets easier too!<P>Hugs, Dana<BR>