Hi all need input from those who have been there.<P>I spoke with H Sat. told him the financial situation we are in and that I no longer wanted to argue , fight or lay any guilt trips. Just wanted to inform him because of the situation I am in I think I should go thru with the Divorce...<P>H owes me 7 months back CS...has started paying but has decreased the amount due to earning less money on his new job.<P>In order to "move" forward I think we must divide all outstanding debts .That way I know for sure what I will be responsible for and can decided based on that information what kind of rent our son and I can afford...Also we are in need of a vehicle..since the one I have is dying a slow death...<P>I can move in with my folks for awhile..but that also means moving away from area near our grown children and grandchildren.<P>I have kept the family united since H's flight...and really don't want to move so far away. I know the older children will understand but even though they are grown they feel the abandonment of thier father as much as the one still at home does.<P>Even though the I don't want a divorce...I feel since there has been no clear PLANS for reconcilation ..I feel H has not taken it off himself for more financial reasons then just wanting to salvage the marriage...<P>I told him on Sat. as of today I would take it off hold...He said he would try to "THINK" of a solution to my delima..since he never wanted me OUT IN THE COLD...and would call back on Sunday....<P>Well Sunday came and went and no phone call or replys...so I guess that leaves me NO choice but that he still doesn't want to work this out as a couple and I AM REALLY ON MY OWN...<BR>So I know I should call my attorney and take it off hold...but STILL keep hoping for that little miracle....I know I am in denial...that H wants to work on the marriage...and maybe if I see the papers in black and while I can finally let go and really move on.....<BR>How did you make the decison to go thru with the divorce and do you now have regrets?<BR>I will call by this afternoon...so please help with your thoughts, words or just prayers.<BR>Tyra

I think we all move through this process hoping for some kind of movie-like <BR>"save" event -- the governor calls and orders a stay of execution, as we are about to jump off the cliff because the hounds are pursuing us we see the white knight out of the corner of our eye and he sweeps forward to save us, or we wake up and know that it was a "Dallas" 'it-was-only-a-dream realization.<BR>OK, now back to reality. Think hard about what life has REALLY been like for the last year or so. Consider whether there has been GOOD FAITH behind even TALK about change. It is beyond difficult sometimes to accept the truth about your life and the other person.<BR>But hang tough and don't be afraid to move forward. You WILL be OK. You will even be better and fine and come out much BETTER.

Tyra,<P>I will pray for you to make whatever decision God wants you to make. No one else can answer this for you. Divorce is not an end to anything. There are last minute call that save the day but they do not come from the governor. I say this because I have recieved those "last minute calls".I don't want a divorce and I have gotten two miracles that have postponed the divorce for months now. I also see changes in my husband.<BR>Believe in miracles they do happen but we cannot make them happen we can only pray for them and then have the faith they will come.<BR>I pray the best for you. <BR>gentle