As some of you may remember, my x and I owned a bus together.....after many situations...(read my history of posts) I asked him to leave the business. <P>He moved to Calif, took a job, and told me things were good, he was working hard, he started paying me child support( when he "could")....<P>I just heard through the grapevine he got fired!! After only 4 months...man, he didn't work much when he was here, either, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised. But now i am sure the CS will quit coming, and I am curious if he will try to come back here and re- join the business (he is still an owner). He calls me and laments on how bad his life is now..DUH!!! But he has not told me he got fired yet.. I wonder if he will, or just not pay until I ask questions??<P>------------------<BR>Susan

Sue, <BR>Can you buy his half of business? Havent had time to read your history, but it sounds very unfortunate! <P>If it were me, I wouldnt say anything to him about his job there or losing it. And, I would be careful about your business, because cant he get loan out against it? That could put you in a bind as far as the business's credit, and liability. <P>For me, I have learned to document everything that happens between me and my stbx. So, I would just keep a record of the events as they occur. Maybe you could look into finding investor to buy out your husband. If he lost his job, maybe he will take any reasonable offer, and your business will no longer have his name on it! <P>Good luck! Hope this helps some!

Susan,<P>Keep protecting yourself...<BR>...You know you need to.<P>I hope all (other than xH) is going well.<P> <P>Jim

Hi Sue,<P>Hope you are fully recovered!<P>Question for you: <P>What if your x asked to rejoin the business? That's the first thought I had... and since I am one to start planning for every scenario - now that your life is in order again, do you think that would complicate things? Do you think there is a chance he is trying to create those kind of circumstances? The lamentations about his life made that little bell go off in my mind... <P>I guess that is something I have wondered with myself - I see my x making a slight, but very definite positive change - it scares me in a way, since after those tumultuous years, when his behavior made the divorce my only option, now that my life is in reasonable order, that he MAY, and I emphasize may be complicating things, and not for the right reasons, but out of competitiveness.<P>My happiness is so contingent on my children's well being, anyway - I was wondering if you had any of these types of thoughts? or maybe misgivings? <P>

Honey, <BR>I did think about that, but I would have to leave...just too many things between us, and I could not work with him again. <BR>In fact, if I had confidence in him and that he had changed, I would sell him my part and get out. But, since he has been fired from this job, I doubt he has changed much. <BR>I had that cancer scare this October, and the stress of work is prob. not good for me. So, him taking over the business again would be ok. But only if he changed and would run it right. <P>------------------<BR>Susan

Sue,<P>I'm looking forward to when I can be as sure and objective as you are. Not there yet, but better than I was in the past. <P>And you are right about reducing your stress. The best thing you can do for you and the kids. Take care, glad that you are doing so well physically, as well as emotionally.

Honey, <P>You are so kind!! Some days I feel like I am over the hump, others I feel the pain all over again. I am looking forward to the day when it fades and I don't have these ups and downs. The ups and downs are fewer apart now, but still there sometimes...<BR>I do think that I am doing good. But, still sometimes those old terrible feelings just well up in me. <P>------------------<BR>Susan

{{{{{{{{{{{Sue}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I hope I'm not repeating any of the same questions, I don't have enough time to read all the replies.<P>Do you really want him to be in the business?? I didn't realize he was still involved in any way with it.<P>Wow, so that means he might move too, right??<P>It sounds like he is NOW finally coming out of that fantasy since the last phase of things ending with OW.<P>Good luck,<BR>Hugs, Dana<BR>

Hi Dana!<P>Only if I left would I want him in the business..I just could not work with him...<P>Well, he may be out of the fantasy, but he did go to Colorado for a tournament and skiing this past week. Guess leaving his kids without support was not as important as a vacation to him. He has really turned back into a teenager. No responsibilities, just do whatever. The OW lived in Colorado, so he prob. did see her. <P>------------------<BR>Susan