Hmmm<p>[This message has been edited by slowlerner (edited February 16, 2000).]

slow,<p>Take care of yourself. Take care of your kids. Let your wife know that you are more than willing to reconcile. And then wait patiently. Learn to listen to her without trying to 'fix' things in your way (disrespectful judgements).<p>Again, my wife hit bottom near the end of her affair. I was able to be a stablizing influence for the kids (and for her), but she still had to go through it. It's not fun. You'll probably find a great deal of compassion for her when she hits bottom, because it's not pretty. When she does, make sure those lovebusters are under lock and key.<p>A practical hint. If she's threatening suicide, ask her 'how' she's going to do it. If she knows how (say pills), that shows forethought, and it's a very serious situation. I ended up calling my wife's therapist during her worse time: I hated to do it (a violation of her trust), but it was less intrusive than 911 (the sherrif's pulling up). And it's easier to reconcile with a live wife than a dead one. But that's a terrible point to be facing. Again, I suggest that you talk to a counselor. The life insurance purchase would concern me.