I have been married for 4 1/2 years. I recently found out that my husband was involved in an emotional affair with an ex-girlfriend from high school. Since I've discovered it, my husband and I have been distant. I made attempts to reconcile, but my husband kept insisting on a separation-he wanted to move in with his parents. Since I live in his hometown, I have no family or friends within a 250 mile radius, so basically I have no emotional support. I told my husband that I could not stop him from moving in with his parents, but that I knew how much I could take emotionally and that I would have to move back near my family and friends to get through this horrible disaster. My husband told me that if he let me move, it would be the biggest mistake of his life-he said that although he has met other women who look better than me physically, no other woman has compared to the point where he would be willing to give up his marriage and family. I want to believe him, but it is hard. When I call home and he is not there, I am constantly wondering if he is with the ex-girlfriend. I called his parents and discussed the situation with them, but, once again, it proved useless. I have been closer to my husband's family than my own since we've married, and my daughter is closer to my husband's family than mine, but when I go to them for support and guidance to help my husband and I work through issues, they tend to support my husband leaving and begin to pull away from our daughter-like, this marriage won't last so why bother! Is it uneasonable for me to expect his parents to try and help our marriage? Do most in-laws side with their child no matter what? I don't want to be hurt again, but I am afraid that my husband doesn't want me to leave, but at the same time doesn't want to end the marriage.

In laws are tricky i figure.<BR>Of coarse they'll support their child.<BR>BUT i don't think it is a matter of them taking his side or yours i just thnk it is a matter of him being THEIR child.<P>Picture anything happening to your daughter regardless of the situation your her mom and maternal you will provide and protect.<P>I feel hugh for you.<BR>Being in a strange place with no support<BR>is really difficult.<P>Good luck to you.<BR>I find writing in here helps.<BR>No matter how short or long, even if no one reads it releases the emtion and allows you to crumble. <P>Some say that that crumbling isn't heathy but i may feel exhausted afterwards but a good cry helps me. Then i don't feel so tense.<P>

he won't let you leave..yet he's walked out to live w/ his parents??? whats stopping you from packing up and moving anyway?? He can tell you all he wants it's YOUR fault..since you moved away..but it's not..and don't feel guilty about making decisions that are best for you emotionally..since he doesn't seem to care about anyone but himself..<P>and who knows maybe if you left..then HE would follow you..because the OW won't necessarily be the same if he actually has to <BR>have a relationship w/ her..he should look at why she is and EX-GIRLFRIEND to begin with..<BR>and if he's only w/ her for her looks..he's shallow..very shallow..(IMHO) <P>I still like that song...Sometimes I Thank God for Unanswered Prayers...