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<p>[ January 09, 2002: Message edited by: OffOnOnOff ]</p>
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OffOnOnOff,<P>Interesting! You have a unique thought there. I must confess, though, that most of the men here are more like my dearest friends and co-conspirators. But, you have a point!<P> <P>CJ<BR><P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
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To be honest with you I even thought about joining a divorce support group to maybe find somebody who has been in my situation.<P>So no your idea isn't to far off the wall. (I guess that depends on how far off the wall I am don't it? )<P>Jill
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Too many people have started relationships with other MBer's while they were still married...
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Well, it was brought up by one MB to me once last summer because she thought it would have a solid foundation of the MB principles, etc.<P>But what about the distance? suppose you were on the east coast, and the other victim was on the west coast? e-dating? could have potential. however, I did join matchmaker.com, new england region, but looking through the people, i never got one that i found appealing. just not quite right.<P>There were quite a few people from the state of Washington here. maybe there was potential with the distance small?<P>Murph, any comments?<P>and I have emailed, phoned and met with some of the delightful people here. But the ones i chatted with are 2000 miles away. but i do know of two that live within 20 miles of my house. I would not be interested in them, though. <P>So let's play devil's advocate. So now, lets say its a go, what are you looking for?<BR>we are faceless, how would you know if the other person was a candidate? what would you go on to tell if the person has potential?<P>WIFTTy
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hi Off/on,<P>Interesting question. I think it will most likely be a flame starter!! From what I hear there have been relationships started while marriages were still intact, that probably wouldn't be the greatest idea. <P>As far as two people understanding the concepts and knowing what you have "been thru", sure its reasonable enough. <P>I'll post more later, I'm curious to see what replies we get! <P>
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I've seen more than one suggestion for live chat go down in flames because of the propensity for just that sort of thing to happen. Personally, I would think that any "qualified candidate" here would have waaay too much information at his disposal, what with having posted while in the depths of despair (or the bottom of a bottle). Don't think I'd really feel real comfortable with quite that much familiarity.<P>------------------<BR>Bobbie
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Sure,I'll comment on this....<P> I tried to get Mitzi to go out on a date with me sometime ago.<P> But,.....SHE turned me down flat! <P> ~~Murph
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Well, I'm certainly not offended. <P>I wouldn't right now, because I'm still married and too early in the process to be ready to date. I have a lot more healing to do before I'm ready to jump back in that alligator pit <P>The idea that most of the people here do have a good foundation in MB principles does have merit though. If I ever entered into a long term relationship with someone, I would need for the MB principles to be an important part of building the relationship.<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again
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Murph,<P>I don't recall being asked out on a date!!! You sure it was me you asked?? <P>Mitzi
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Excellent suggestion!<P>For me though:<BR>1. I'm married until the divorce goes through.<BR>2. I need time to heal.<BR>3. She may return from the planet she has fleed to.<BR>4. My children need me to be there for them in this craziness.<P>BUT after a while, a long while, I will be for ready a relationship and would seek a someone, a friend and Lord willing a mate. I would think a woman who posts here and understands herself and understands a man's needs would be an excellent person to contact. I would stay very far away from the personals in the paper and internet. I would not date someone who I didn't think I would want to marry.<P>For now, I'm happy with me and my children and will wait for God to work things out. I won't worry about what my life will be like or who I will have a relationship with. I'm enjoying His attention. <P>For those who are free and ready, God bless you all.<P>B
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Hi -<P>I think its a thought that crosses many people's minds, but not in a real sense - that seems like it would be disaster waiting to happen. And does seem like two "damaged" people in similar circumstances would have a far greater likelihood for failure, seeking a relationship when both need extra support and understanding.<P>But some things that reading all the posts here have done for me as far as forging a new relationship have been:<P>1. Helps restore my faith that more men are decent than not;<P>2. Gives me a male perspective;<P>3. Provides a better understanding of the qualities in men that I view as essential, and traits that I must have in my mate. <P>4. Reinforces that I wasn't alone in the problems I had in my marriage, that it wasn't all my fault that things happened as they did.<P>From reading these posts, I know I'm not dreaming that I will be in a great marriage again. <P>
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No one anywhere near me - several hundred miles. Even if Mr. Right was on the boards, he's not in the area geographically. So, for me, it's not at all a realistic possibility. Besides, I've already been one person's rebound relationship and I have no desire to do that again.
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It's an interesting thought, OOOO.<P>I too live in the Pacific NW, Western WA ... and if I was single (which looks like pretty soon) and after I have healed, I would most definitely find interest in a man who is WELL VERSED in the MB principals.<P>Jo
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