Hello,<BR> I'm Mr.kimkaymilkyway,thank you who all answred my fist topic.I have since read all of our most of yours topics.My wife seems to be over protecive doesn't she.I tried posting a comment last night,it failed to go thru.I agree with some of your comments,I do comminicate with my wife better when I do write letters to her than rather than,confronting her.This might be one of our problems,she also needs to remember that that this is a two people trying to communicate.I am not always right,nor is she.When we made the decsion to have kids our lives will change.whether it may be lost time with friends our family,this is one sacrifice we all make.my values maybe different than my wifes,we shoud be able to come to some sort of agreement before it is to late,No matter what the sacrifice.My wife will probely read this,I would like to tell her that I do love her.

Dear Mr. KimKay,<P>Nice to meet you. You may thank that dastardly dude tom/WIFTTy for introducing us. I check up on him over here occasionally. Under some people's criteria I might be on the wrong board, but that never stopped me yet. My divorce was only over 11 years ago, and I have my mitts in the midst of several people's very active divorces.<P>So that said, may I give you another welcome to MB? This link <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/002583.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/002583.html</A> should help you get started with marriage building. Start with the General Welcome link and chase around from there.<P>Communication with a chatterbox can be tricky. They like to feel listened to, they like to be listened to, but they also NEED to hear a lot of chatter back. Get rid of the silent treatment. It isn't working very well for you,is it? <P>So, read up on the basic concepts, then join us over on the Emotional Needs forum and post, read, and reply with advice and input of your own. That is the quickest way to success.<P>Best wishes to both of you!<P>Karenna<P>------------------<BR>A true friend is one who not only is willing to love us the way we are, but is able to leave us better than he found us.

thanks, Karenna