Hello everyone, I have not been here posting for sometime but I have been lurking. I recieved the finale decree yesterday and the divorce will be finale next week!<P>Of course the real ***** is that I still love her! I even went out an bought a new shirt and some new cologn (spelling wrong)for a lunch meeting we had. Of course I had hoped that some how she would fall over, yeah what a joke!<P>I wish you all well and I hope that your outcomes are different!

hurtinginOmaha,<P>If you feel strong enough in who you are to keep your faith, keep in mind that the divorce papers are only papers. They can't control emotions. Sometimes people need the divorce finalized before they can start "new" - that even goes for starting new with the marriage they just "left".<P>I pray for you and for your wife's change of heart.<P>God Bless you both and I wish you a happy holiday!<P>Mike

Hey, old friend - <P>I have really missed hearing from you. It's been way to long and I've really wondered how you are. I'm glad to know you aren't totally gone from here. <P>You know you're going to have a whole new set of issues to work on. I've been through it and I know that the heartbreak isn't over yet. But, you are at the point where you can begin healing. And probably the new you, the man you are becoming, will be even more wonderful than the caring man you have been. Just maybe the woman you love will recognize that, too.<P>You've been in my thoughts and prayers and I'm really glad to hear from you.<P>Since you're a single guy now, want to come to my hot tub party. <P>-Cinderella, the Royal Princess

Thanks for the invite to the hot tub party. I am not sure I would know how to handle myself! Hard enough to talk with women let alone being in a hot tub with them!

HIO, missed your posts, have been wondering about you. how did your kids hold up? i'm like you my D is up on monday and i'm worried about my boys since stbx has subpoenaed both my sons and they'll be in the courtroom. x is dragging me into trial. but i like you am still in love with H even after all the pain he has caused me. i still find myself dressing up and caring about how i look when i know he is coming after the boys. I'll pray for you that your x will see the man you are now and what she has thrown away. Who knows it could be like Mike said for both of us! D puts an end to things and allows us to restart. why not with the same person! Keep the faith!

H.I.O.,<P>Its great that you are dressing up and putting on some new cologne. Wonderful sign that you still care enough to make yourself attractive. Although she may not say it, bet your house it didn't go unnoticed.<P>When you take care of yourself, there is a whole world full of women out there who are taking notice too. There is no rush, time takes care of a lot.<P>About four times a year, I spend a week in a small town in Wyoming. I'm involved in emotional affairs with about sixteen or seventeen ladies there. I always get dressed up for the visit, and put on the aftershave and cologne too. Of course, they are all in their eighties and in a nursing home with my Mom. They still have that need for a little attention from the male of the species.<P>Guess what? Now some of the nurses are paying attention to me too. Go figure.<P>So I hope you keep taking care of yourself, I think what you are doing is healthy. I promise you this, your ex noticed that you dressed up for her. And the fact that you did, made her feel good.<P>Bumper

Get with the plan man, you have 5 weeks till the party. You can do this. Besides, we'll look human. The only ones with tans will be the high-maintenance women. You'll need it. And you were here when we started planning this. I'm saving a room for you and I have to surrender my unused rooms in a week.

So when and where is the hot tub party? I am not sure about my ability to swing it financially or my ability to be around alot of women ( I am starving after all )but let me know particulars and I will see what I can do!

WARNING - DO NOT READ THIS POST UNLESS.....<P>I promise you none of the women will ravage your body. We might try but there will be some other men there who will help you fight us off.<P>The event is SuperBowl weekend - the last weekend in January. Holiday Inn Brentwood just outside Nashville. I will find the other threads and bring them to the top.<P>We've got a block of rooms. Room sharing is an option. E-mail me at jane_elisem@altavista.com (Rooms are in group name of Marriage Builders and I [Jane-Elise Thomas] am the contact person.)<P>Threads will be raised to the top as soon as I can find them. Way back when we started planning this Gina told me you were a definite maybe so this is not something you've never heard of.<P>I have gotten my crown jewels out of storage and am preparing them for the big event.<BR>