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{{{{{{{trapped mom}}}}}}}}}<P>It is amazing how much our ex's can abuse and hurt us when they are being so selfish in the affair. <P>My ex continues, after a whole year, to do the same thing to me. And the OW is STILL invading my territory , granted we're divorced, but she tells my kids she loves them, and acts like she's my friend.<P>I wish it got easier, but it seems like just when you get on your feet, you have to re-adjust once again. <P>Hang in there,<BR>Dana<P>

I so know what you mean.<P>I work with the OW<BR>She lives VERY close to X's house.<BR>When we were trying to get together she'd driveby....2-3 times a day!!!<BR>She calls his work.<BR>How i know?????<BR>That's because she tells i'm sleeping with this one and that one, to make him mad at me i guess...????<BR>The bet is that relatives of hers are invovled in extra-curricular activities with my our child and they call to tell him how she looks and whether or not she attends.<BR>Lord knows if i'm not there than i must be out and about!<P>Pathetic.<P>But i told her once already I'm so glad you have nothing better to do with your day than to watch me. I guess she's hoping if she gets my thoughts and patterns down then my X will finally give in to her completely.<P>Tee Hee<BR>I'm amused!<BR>After all imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I'm glad i can entertain them so much.<P>When i realized what they were all doing, i when i can antagize the situation. It's GREAT.<P>But i don't let it control.<BR>It actually helps me to hit some of my own goals since the divorce.<P>Chin up!<P>Besides by you being there at the school doing something you love......your the better for it and become stronger everyday. After awhile she'll be just another face. If she isn't already. They're looking for you not the other way around!<P>

OMG, what a bunch of cr**.<P>Well, I personally could care less about either one of them right now. I wish they'd stay out of my life. X must be cheating on OW because I've been getting hang-up calls again. A white car, just like hers, has driven by my house slowly one night 4 times. She must think he's spending time here. They don't get it. I want nothing to do with them. I want them to disappear. I don't care if they are fighting. I don't care if they are in heavenly bliss. They need to stay the heck away from me. I don't have the problems yet like Dana tho because he hasn't introduced my kids yet. I think he's afraid to (as he should be if he could only hear their plans for his 'girlfriend'). All I care is that she had better not dis them in any way and I don't care what they've done to her. They're lives suck because of her.<P>As for her family, they are disgusted with her, especially her mother - so I have an idea they are a family that has some decent moral values enough to be sickened by her daughter being a homewrecker. I actually wouldn't mind meeting her mother. Maybe you should have a talk with her mother so that she knows how much damage has been done. After all, you work with her, she's sort of a captive audience. I guess I wouldn't go out to lunch with her or anything, but for cyr'n out loud, your family has been destroyed by her offspring and she should know the damage somehow.<P>I don't know, I go off don't I. Talk to you.<P><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

Kathi,<P>I know how you feel, as I answered "do I think about the X every day?" <B> NO! </B> <P>Now we haven't even files the papers, just got them before christmas to review from the mediator, and X and kids had IL's, her family up for christmas, and OM already had gifts for kids with her famly. I started to get pissed, but gifts are her love language, NOT mine. Mine are experiences together, which last time she initiated the conversation about that before all this crap, she started fighting with me, over an agreement we had 10 years ago, and I was just bringing it up.<P>Anyway, when I talked with her about kids' schedules after her family christmas, she sounded depressed, don't know why, but hopefully, feels some guilt. I didn't ask, but usually she starts a fight whenever I look like a good guy. Then she got pissy about holiday scheduling in the agreement, I had it in front of me, and she was just wrong again! (I don't trust her and her memory ever, lesson learned along tome ago!) she just hung up on me in the middle of the conversation.<P>So I'm with you guys. just give me my 50% of my time with the kids and go fall off the roof, or drive into a tree, or stand in an open field during a lightening storm, just mkae it look like an accident so I don't have to defend myself.<P>remember, to live a better life! its the best revenge. so do what we have to do to make ourselves happy! we only have so much time left in the world, and it could end tomorrow<BR>with some stray meteor!<P>tom<BR>

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What is is with the "I didn't tell you because I didn't want to hurt you anymore" crap. I just heard that tonight. I guess it is easier to string me along for two months thinking there was a chance while he made up his mind????? Oh well... the lies are over. I think I know almost everything, who knows. At this point I dont know that I will ever trust him or anyone again. There were so many tears with the lies that I believed him... <P>

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trapped mom, <P>do you think the ow has a way to control what her family members do? what size town do you live in? sounds like a small one. if so, i think that is a part of the reality. it's possible i could see my ws w in public. i'm not crazy about that just like you aren't. <P>it is possible your h was trying to protect you, or possible he did think you knew.

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