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Why couldn't I hold on to my husband. I was a very good wife, friend, lover. Was I not good enough, I feel so rejected and abandoned. I was a very happy and optimistic person before this hell, will I return to that person?? I really need some words of advise and motivation.
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Hi,<BR>I'm sorry you are feeling pain.<BR>But I think you will be the way you were before this happened. Better, you will be better than who you were.<BR>Like you, I think I was happy and optimistic, now I still have lots of pain but I feel I'm a better person. I feel I've grown up..<BR>I don't know your story but it will get better.<BR>Hang in there!<P>Meg
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Hi Rejected,<P>I have no answers for you, but God alone knows the number of times I have asked those same questions. And almost 2 years down the track I still have no answers from ex-h.<BR>About what went wrong. All I know is that we had a tired marriage. One that needed us to spend some time together. Time I asked him to spend with me, but he was always busy at work and couldn't take time off.<P>I can tell you this tho. I does get easier. It does get better. The unanswered questions stop being at the forefront of your mind. They move to the middle of your mind.... Hopefully in another 2 years they will be at the back of my mind.!!! You move on. I still have a sadness that seems to envelope me at times, but I have a life for myself and my 2 children. And I have managed to stay on fairly good terms with him for the sake of my 2 beautiful babies. That makes it so much easier.<P>All I can say about my situation is that I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I don't know the reason yet, but I do know that I have learnt so much and grown so much. And this site has helped me with that. No-one could possibly understand what we go through, other than those who have been through it, or are going through it.<P>Keep coming here, the wisdom, the grace, and the friendship that I have found here have saved me on more than one occasion. I cannot speak highly enough of everyone here.<BR>We'll be here for you too.<P>keep your chin up, and focus on getting though today. Do one thing each day for you, even if it is going to a coffee shop with a girlfriend. Or having a long hot bath. But do it for you. You need to focus on you at the moment. And you need to know that you're not bad.<P>keep in touch, and big hugs for you<P>Jo
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