Hello every one this my first time to post but have been glued to this site for a couple of months...recently divorced about 2 months now..we were seperated for about 6 before that ...<BR> in my heart i know what happened but i am still very hurt and confused..i guess this is normal..we have a 5 year old and a 7 year old involved in this they live with her..we have joint custody and so far that has been going real good<BR> my x got in nursing school almost 2 years ago and it was something that we both wanted to make our lives better..i tried to be as supportive as i could i worked 2 jobs to make everything work ,it started out very good but she started making new friends,wich i did not have a problem with that but it turned into more of a priorty than me and the kids, me and the kids would stay home on the weekends while she went out with all her new friends ...<BR> she quit paying the bills ,comming in 4 -5 in the morning,she just got to where she totally shut me and the kids out of her life and did the same to her mom and dad..i watched our lives totally fall apart and could not do anything about it..the more i tried to get her to talk to me the further she backed up, I lined up 2 different counclers but she would only go one time and she would say that she felt like she was getting picked on and both counclers were women..has anyone else faced this<BR> i guess i needed to vent a little and i am not saying that i am perfect but all she ever told me is that she was just not happy and she did not know how she felt anymore and that she still loved me<BR> we have been married for 8 years and had 3 kids together but we lost our first to a birth defect..<BR> I want to move on with my life and in the process of doing this..starting a new job and making other adjustments...<BR> I guess what i am battling with is she left me and i know there was someone else involved due to where she moved to but after 2 weeks she moved in with her mom and dad ..every one tells me she will want u back after she wakes up..but what i am thinking is in a way i hope she don't ...but is it that common after someone leaves and so many things happen to which i do not know if i could forget for someone to come back ...<BR> I guess what i am saying is i want to forgive and go on..but right now i don't think i would be strong enough to say no..i guess i feel kind of helpless in a way..not a good feeling...<BR> i also still have images of her with the om<BR>guess i just needed to vent...every says i just need time under my belt and the more time she gives me the more resistance i get..and the thicker my skin gets...<BR> if anyone has any simmilar feelings or situations i would like to hear from u<BR> thanks for listening<P>------------------<BR>