Thanks again for your reply to my previous post. It helped me feel better. Any ideas on how to react when he says that they are still friends? I'm not sure if they keep in touch. He has e-mail at work so I wouldn't see it if they were communicating there. <p>She broke up H and my marriage nine years ago. She left H a couple of years ago for a friend of theirs. Who says she wouldn't decide to change mates again? (By the way, there is justice in this life. She desperately wants kids and is incapable of having them for medical reasons.)<p>Also, he sent Xmas cards to his former in-laws. I sent cards to my ex-inlaws, too, but I signed them from all of us and used the same boxed cards we sent to everyone else. He went out and bought special cards and signed them from him only. I know this only because one came back with a wrong address. That one was for the parents. I think there were also ones for sisters and other relatives. Maybe even one to her? I'm not sure - he took care of them himself, while I wrote out all the other cards including the ones to his family and friends. <p>One more thing. How do you know if he is truely over the wh**e? I asked him if he was. He said, "She has burned too many bridges." <p>Am I being too sensitive? Any insight would be appreciated. <p>Lisa