Not the infamous blue dress...but the infamous ex-wedding dress! Jamie-Lee asked about wedding rings. I would like to know what y'all did or are going to do with your wedding dress (or other wedding stuff). I mentioned on her post that my MIL told me she burned hers in the fireplace. WAHOO! Would I love to, but really, who'd actually do that besides her!<P>It's taking up space in my closet and since I don't have a really full closet (I'm a jeans kinda gal), it's always staring me in the face and I want to be rid of it. I don't want to pass it down because I would feel like I'm passing down a curse on someone's new marriage.<P>Any ideas? Do resale shops take wedding dresses? I've never seen a 2nd hand wedding dress shop, do they exist?<P>------------------<P>Kathy<p>[This message has been edited by weirded out (edited January 06, 2001).]

Hi, I think there are second hand wedding dress shops - I live in a large metropolitan area so I am sure they exist. I will probably give mine away to Goodwill or something. What you said about passing down the bad luck made me think. Sure would not want my daughter to wear the dress that I married her dad in - bad luck and karma to her.<P>What do people do with the wedding pictures and all the other pictures for that matter. When my ex left he took zippo of the pictures even though he spent lots of him time creating these really nice vaction albums with titles and comments in them. I may be relocating soon so I think I will just box up all of the "old" photos and leave them in the box and see if my daughter wants any of them when she gets older. I sure don't want to look at them.

Do Not throw away albums, ever!<P>storage yes, throw away:<BR>never, never, never<P>tom

Hmmm, I'll have to look into that wedding dress curse thing. My stbx wore her mother's dress from her third wedding (or was it the second?).

Oh, I wasn't serious about a curse. I don't really believe in that kind of stuff. But I still would feel uneasy. And if I was a young person getting married, I'm not so sure I'd buy a dress from a used wedding dress store because I'd wonder about it.<BR><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

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weirded out,<P>I'm keeping mine. Besides its not the typical wedding dress, its more so like a ball gown. It's great for formal events and besides, I love that dress. <BR> <P>------------------<BR><B>God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...Courage to change the things I can...And the wisdom to know the difference.</B><P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

hi,<P>I can't answer the question because I didn't marry "the right way" the first time, so I guess the second time (yes, I'm hoping), I'll pick out something really beautiful (not white).<P>Where I live, yes, there ARE second hand shops that would take even a wedding dress. You can also sell it in the newspaper, there are women looking to save some money.<P>Third, you could even auction it on EBAY. Take a picture and I think anything will sell on there!<P>I saw a can of Pledge, Lemon Scent, used once, for $1.12 and SOMEONE BOUGHT IT!!!!<P>If you have daughters, sorry I can't remember, you could always save it and have most of it "redesigned" into a different looking dress down the road, but she may want her own anyhow.<P>If you don't want it, hey, make some money!!!!<P>Dana<BR>

Gee--if I could even fit in mine anymore!! Come to think of it--why do I keep 70% of the clothes in my closet, they are all on the small side.<P>Nature took care of my wedding dress for me--sitting in the closet in Hawaii, it began to disintegrate with the heat, humidity and mold. So it just starting falling apart--kind of like my marriage

My dress was not a big foofy thing. We got married in MIL's back yard so it was a short and gardeny beautiful kinda dress, really appropriate for the kind of person I am, but busy and embroidered and stuff but didn't cost me a fortune because it was discontinued (only about $250 at the time). I don't think I could ever wear it anywhere else.<P>Ya, I'm going to get rid of it. I guess this is the one thing I have no special attachment to, like I do to my rings.<P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

My H bought me my wedding dress shortly after we started dating 26 years ago - of course it was not designed necessarily as a wedding dress. I would never discard such a present from the man I love. <BR>

X didn't take that stuff when she left, and when I asked her about it she said she would sell the dress, and we could give the album to her mother. She never made any effort to get the stuff so when I was cleaning out stuff, I threw the albums away and threw the wedding dress into a Goodwill box.<P>X has never said anything about it.<P>Tom, why keep the old pictures? Would you want to marry someone who keeps pictures of their previous spouse amd marriage ? I would prefer starting over with a clean sweep.

I loved the lace on my dress. So I'm taking that off to keep. As I remove the lace from a part of the dress, I rip the fabric off and throw it in the trash. <P>I used to sell wedding dresses. My opinion then was that it was wonderful if you had a family gown that you could wear. But, on the other hand I felt that it was wonderful to have a new gown that wouldn't have any baggage attached to it.<P>Before I started taking the dress apart, I thought a while about it. Having heard my x say some of the things he said, I did not want my daughter to wear it. She could wear the lace - but not the dress.<P>I love seeing this rag of a dress. It's like seeing pieces of the pain go in the trash.

I loved the lace on my dress. So I'm taking that off to keep. As I remove the lace from a part of the dress, I rip the fabric off and throw it in the trash. <P>I used to sell wedding dresses. My opinion then was that it was wonderful if you had a family gown that you could wear. But, on the other hand I felt that it was wonderful to have a new gown that wouldn't have any baggage attached to it.<P>Before I started taking the dress apart, I thought a while about it. Having heard my x say some of the things he said, I did not want my daughter to wear it. She could wear the lace - but not the dress.<P>I love seeing this rag of a dress. It's like seeing pieces of the pain go in the trash.

My dad gave me the best suggestion yet...donate my dress (very frufru Princess Di style) to the local humane society and let them use it to line the dog kennels...since my stbx already "soiled" the symbolism with his actions...<P>I think my dad is more bitter/angry/disgusted with my stbx than I am...