Hi I am new to this board. Yes I can spell just got it wrong in the title. Spent time on planA/planB board, but after much soul searching and a little effort I realised I dont want to get back together with my cheating lying exhusband who has no respect for me after 8 years of marriage. That is after I supported him through three sexual harrassment cases at work, shifted up and down country numerous times, the mother of our 5year old daughter and supported hin through university both financially and emotionally.<P>Now I am no longer good enough for him, and he had an affair before we split up which is still going. He left on 1st November to be with a woman who has been married twice and has 2 boys, I met her she is a nut case.<P>HE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME.<P>Tell me have I come to the right place. We are now legally seperated, in my country we cant be divorced for 2 years. Cant wait for that day.<p>[This message has been edited by rjs (edited January 07, 2001).]

There will be some along in a bit to give you the formal welcome. I think you have come to the right place. It has helped me.<P>You seem to be very angry, not that you don't have a right to be. But the anger will hurt you too. This is a good place to talk with others that have been there and diffuse some of the anger.<P>Good Luck and keep posting

rjs<P>welcome, there are plenty of old timers here to help you get past your past, so to speak.<BR>I think the internet is great, since you are in NZ, that is great!<P>yes, it does appear you made a wise choice. And what is interesting to note is that this stuff happens all over the world, its here and there and everywhere!<P>post some questions, have you gone to plan B?<BR>meaning, just no contact, unless necessary for the kid?<P>it makes life so much more bearable.<P>and have you understood what part you contributed to the demise of the marriage?<P>good luck, and the sun should be rising in the morning sky as I type this.<P>tom<P>