Hi Gang!<P>I wanted to let everyone know that I have changed my name,aka:W.G.Up.H/Gina to LittleCookie.<P>I have wanted to do this for a while.[just couldn't decide on a name.]LOL <P>You know....well,for those that know me,I used that name bc I thought at the time I wouldn't give up the hope that #1 my H wouldn't move out and then later hoping he would come back.<P>I in fact did give up that hope.He showed me no desire to get help/and or try to make our M better. I knew that if I had continued we would both live the rest of our lives in "limbo".I couldn't do that.<P>I am at peace w/my self,knowing in my heart that for 9 months I did everything that I could.After several months of soul searching and trying to figure out what I had done wrong.... even addmiting to my false/bad habits or as we call them LB's [which was extremely hard for me to do.]everything that I contributed to the down fall,I know that I gave my all to him for 15 years!<P>I guess that Jan is kinda a big month for me.The end of the month will be a year that I found this site.<P>The D will be final[court date set for Jan 22] and as I see it.......what a great way to start out my "singlehood" on a vacation w/the "Gang" in NVille!! <P>Even thou I have not posted in quite a while,I am still here.......always will be.<P>You are all very dear to me!! <P>Hope that everyone had a great Christmas and New Year! [well,as great as it could be seeing what all of us are going through.]<P>You all take care! <P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Hey Gina,<P>I wondered where you have been!!! [wink, wink, nudge, nudge, say no more]. Haven't heard from you in a dogs age and that's a long time to you and me. I was going to try to figure it out for you in people years, but, I can only count up to 21.<P>LittleCookie? Where in the world did you come up with that? Does this mean you are perhaps vertically challenged or live in a magical tree with elves that make cookies all day long for minimum wage for a large company? <P>I was thinking of changing my name as well. How about Abooneylintagaz? Rough American Buffalo translation "Fuzzy Bugs Bunny slippers".<P>Your'e going to Nville? No way!!! Me too. Imagine that!!! Is that a turtle?<P>Hey, what did you do between Christmas and New Years? I tried snow tubing, it was a blast. You really have to go one day. Watch out for the fence thou, that will leave a mark.<P>Catch ya in the funny papers. Bumblebee tuna!<P>Wishing all the Best.<P>Zippy, the Village Idiot returns from the woodwork.<P>Sorry about the end of the M, my D should be final within the next two weeks. Hey, let's party like it's 1999!!! <BR>

Gina,<P>Hi! I was asking about you on the nashville post that I put up. How are you!! I was wondering if your ok and where you disappeared to! I remember you came about 3 or 4 weeks after me. I am pretty much done on the board. I have a few threads to reply to or I suppose I should say "defend" myself on and then I'm done. I feel this place is turning too much of a debating forum and I don't see how that is going to help new people coming here in search of help. Just wanted to pop in and say hello and you can feel free to email me privately if you like anytime.<P>Good luck!<BR>Dana<BR>

Gina and Tim - welcome back. Looking forward to meeting you in less than 3 weeks. <P>Dana - you are forbidden to leave. You do not have permission. Unhunh - No Way - Not in this lifetime. Even if Sisyphus and The Student give you a hard way to go, just consider the source....... I've decided that they have a personal deification complex - elevated themselves to positions of personal godhood - or they are pains in the neck. Therefore, I just ignore them.<P>But, it's great to have the two of you back - and Dana you can just get over the idea of leaving. Right Now!!!!!!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by cinderella:<BR><B>if Sisyphus and The Student give you a hard way to go, just consider the source....... I've decided that they have a personal deification complex - elevated themselves to positions of personal godhood - or they are pains in the neck. Therefore, I just ignore them.<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>More the latter, I hope. I'm on here a lot lately because I'm working through some stuff I didn't have a good handle on. The little problem with cOOker being an ignominious detour ... for which I have finally apologized in the "For cOOker ... " thread. And I apologize to you too if I've been out of line ... can't seem to rememeber us being at odds, however ... am I just too ubiquitous lately?<P>Even if I didn't still have stuff to work through myself, I think it's important to try to give back. I hope I've added a few arrows to the quivers of the otherwise defenseless ... just wish I had a few <B>silver bullets</B>. Maybe it's the old newspaperman's idea of comforting the afflicted and afflicting the comfortable.<P>If I've been out of line with DanaB (or even failed to rally to her defense), well, let me make an apology to her too, right here and now.<P>[This message has been edited by Sisyphus (edited January 10, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by Sisyphus (edited January 10, 2001).]

Gina, hello? where are you?<BR>Tim - haven't seen you on here much, thought you only posted in General forum, hope you are doing well. You never let me know how that experimental meds you tried were!<P>To Cinderella, Thank you for the reply. I have a big problem with this place being used to "talk down to" or "insult" people. This is a place where many come to heal. I remember the first day I came here, it was so warm and welcome. My God if it was this angry I'd have left and I can't imagine where I'd be , certainly not the place I am now, which I feel is a big part due to the great people here.<P>In defense to Sisyphus, no we have not exchanged words, and you have never insulted me but thanks for the concern. I think I saw one of your threads but haven't had time to read it just yet. <P>I missed the post with this sisyphys/nick debate, but I think nick is a sweetie so I don't want to join in, although the Dana/TS debate is pretty disgusting. I can't decide whether I want to waste time replying to "swapping fluids" or let it go,but right now my biggest concern is to all the new people who come here.<P>I want them to feel safe and not be afraid to post. I have never been afraid to post, I just don't know what good I can do here anymore. <P>We come here to help one another. At least thats what I thought. We come here to share and grow and let those who come after us know that life does go on. I don't mind the jokes, the mega threads, the nashville trip that I now have to miss, or any of the great topics that rtn2 has brought up, i just think we can each contribute without being ripped to shreads. We have an exSpouse to that for us.<P>So welcome back Gina, I'm glad you are lurking. I wondered if you posted a good bye thread that I missed. Tim, maybe your humor could help us out around here, its pretty angry lately. Sisyphus, thanks again for the reply and Cinderella, thank you for all your support this past year. I think we all just want to get to a place in life where we're happy again. I wish that for everyone on the board.<P>Sorry to take over your thread Gina.<BR>Hugs, Dana<BR>

Hey Zippy!<P>Oh,I have been hanging around.<P>Now here I thought that you could count at least to 40 <P>Well,I have had the nickname "LittleCookie" since HSchool.I have 2 older brothers and w/the last name of Cooke,they use to call the one "Cookie" so me being so little.....well,I am sure you can take it from there. <P>I think the name "FBBS" fits you perfectly!<P>Yeah,can you believe it.....I am going,can't wait to sit in the HT and Talk w/everyone!<BR>Can't forget about the LTag as well. <BR>Do ya have your 45 ready? <P>Now,here if I were to tell you what I did over X-Mas and NY I would then have to kill you.Top secret ya know. <P>I would love to go Snow Tubing.Sounds like a good time!<P>I think you have the right idea.......party like it is 1999! [we will have a chance to do that in NVille.<P>Yes.........as DanaB put it......We all miss your wonderful humor,could use some of it around here.<P>Take it easy,See ya in a couple of weeks!<P>Gina <P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

DanaB,Cinderella<P>Hey girls!! <P>Yes,I am always here.[lurking most of the time.]<P>I have to be honest........the main reason why I don't post as much is the plain fact that it is just too depressing.There are so many newbies.<P>I am at [and really have been for a while,since the signing of the papers]a place where I am happy w/my self and the choices that I have made regarding my M.<P>The other is that a lot of the other posts,I read them,want to respond,but then change my mind.I am not really sure why.I guess maybe sometimes I don't feel like I have anything really to offer.Or sometimes feel like a hyporcrite telling someone to fight for their M when I gave up.<P>I know that you have had a hard time of it lately w/some of your post.........I am sorry for that.<P>This is a place for healing,growing,and most of all support.<P>After all this is called <BR>"Divorcing/Divorced"<P>People are always going to have opinions,I feel as long as you feel confident in your choices then it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks!<P>As Cinderella put it.........you can't go!<P>I wish there was a way for you to be there in NVille.[sure there is no way?]You will be missed,also along w/Mitzi!<P>Don't worry about taking over the thread.<BR>Not a prob.It is open for anything! <P>Take care <P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

GINA AND TIM - I'm truly thrilled that you're both returning. I've missed you. Medic, perhaps we should call you ZITVI. Ziggy Is The Village Idiot. <P>[This message has been edited by cinderella (edited January 11, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by cinderella (edited January 11, 2001).]

OK now I saw a post where Tim said you and he were going skiing soon, I think in the Poconos??? Well, he said "gina" and I guess I'm so wrapped up in MB that I immediately think of W.G.Up Hope Gina when I heard that. <P>Then I see this post that "you two" are returning, sorry I didn't notice Tim gone, just thought he didn't post as much as the females do.<P>Anyhow, am I reading this wrong, or what? If so, I appologize, its been a LONG week and I need a drink!!<P>Hugs, Dana<BR>PS Feel free to email me at MissDMBrown@aol.com, I can't find your personal email address, or the site where NSR/Jim posted them all, I thought it was called, rollcall.<P><BR>

Hi Dana!!!<P>Nope, you got it right. Gina [W.G.up.H] was up here over Christmas and New Years. I was only playing with her on the above post. Yes, we did go snow tubing, what a rush.<P>I guess I should also tell that she was here over Thanksgiving too. We seem to hit it off pretty well. <P>She kind of likes hanging out with me because I am one of the few people that know which eye to look at when I talk to her. [She has a glass eye, don't tell anyone else, thou, OK?] I promised I wouldn't say anything about the wooden leg, so mums the word.<P>And in answer to your question, I was on the experiment drugs for about 3 months and I changed my way of thinking about what happened in the M and A and took myself off them. I feel great now and no meds.<P>I am so glad to hear that you are doing good as well. What a difference a year makes, huh?<P>Sorry to hear that you won't be attending the Nville Gala. You still have 2 weeks to come up with a plan. We have the room with the jacuzzi. <P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Zippy<P>

Tim,<P>I'm confused, did the meds help change the thinking, then you took yourself off, or did you take yourself off because they made you feel funny, just curious!<P>I've made it this far and I'm sure I'll do fine, but I wish I had that opportunity in the beginning stages. <P>I'm glad to hear that you two are having fun and enjoying life. It couldn't happen to two nicer people. <P>I feel better knowing I wasn't so overtired that I misread so much! lol<P>Have a great trip in Nashville!<P>Dana<BR>

Hi,<P>I like your new name. I remember trying to figure out what the heck that last one meant.<P>Looks like you and I are on the same time schedule. I'm slated for divorce on Jan 22 too. I'm ready and it's time. Still wish I was going to Nashville tho and hope you all have a great time!<BR><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

It is not, repeat, not, repeat, NOT to late to make plans for the hot tub party.