Hi All. Very long time lurker, first time poster. I've been coming here for about a year now and never felt the need to post until recently when I filed for divorce. That story will come later. But for now I have a question for the ladies.<p><P>I've been seperated for about 10 Months now and have started to notice ladies staring at me.. Out of the corner of my eye I spot them and there is no doubt they are looking at me. When they catch me cathing them they either smile back or smile and look away..<P>What the heck does this mean? I'm not Tom Cruise but I'm not Quasi Motto either. <P>Are they checking me out or looking at me like I'm strange? Heck it could be both..

Sounds like you must be a very good looking man!

I'm with 711.... <BR>You're being checked out!! <P>*hint... when we don't want to be "caught" we hide behind sunglasses, menues, potted palms etc....

I think this sounds like you need to need to join us for the weekend in Nashville. The women who are tehre will be glad to do a "studmuffin" check.

You are definitely being checked out...<BR>we never smile or look away unless we have been caught...<BR> <BR>

Hey I am not a woman but I have been observing alot lately. In fact, I have been watching non-verbals because they are very telling.<P>Of course, the best thing is to actually have a match between non-verbals and the verbals but that is probably asking for to much.<P>The big question I have Texas is what you going to do if one of those women actually expresses interest! Now that is scary stuff to me!<P>I can exchange glances and smiles but put a real womaen in front of me who actually is attracted to me and makes the blood flow, so to speak, and I will freak!<P>Don't get me wrong it has jsut been along time and this dance we go through is confusing!<P>Watch out for the married women who don't wear rings!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm a chick, and I'd say you are being checked out. Here's what goes on in my head, when I check out guys. If I see a man who is naturally handsome, sometimes I look to appreciate God's creation (so to speak). You know what I mean--some men are just gifted and you have to acknowledge that beauty. If I see a man who is okay looking, but has a great smile or great eyes, I'll look closer to see the fun man underneath. So, if you see a lady staring at you, look back. If she's cute or you've seen her before, smile back and maybe nod your head. See what happens!<P>The wierdest part about all of this, is relearning some of these basics. As I've said a zillion times, I didn't look at other men (even the stunning ones!), so it's hard to get back in the swing of letting myself look. So, if you're ready, give yourself permission to look back and smile!<P>Have fun!<P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Hey Cinderella.... GREAT IDEA!<P>Texas... join us in Nashville, and we'll let you know your stud potential, and give you some tips on how to let us know if you are interested when you catch us! <P>We need to have a "class" on this kind of thing in Nashville.... <P>B

What is this thing about Nashville? I've been here very often and I guess I missed out. What is it about and when???<P>To Hunting: Its been 11+ years since I can remember glances like this.. And let me tell you I THINK (Not know, hence the question to the ladies) that it feels great. All of my friends that have known me forever have said to me in the last 5 or so month that "It's Great to have me back". All the ladies around my office are saying I'm not going to have a problem finding somebody new because they say I'm a charmer.(?). I took this as a compliment.. I love talking to woman, it makes me feel alive again..

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by AgoodManInTexas:<BR><B><BR>To Hunting: Its been 11+ years since I can remember glances like this.. And let me tell you I THINK (Not know, hence the question to the ladies) that it feels great. All of my friends that have known me forever have said to me in the last 5 or so month that "It's Great to have me back". All the ladies around my office are saying I'm not going to have a problem finding somebody new because they say I'm a charmer.(?). I took this as a compliment.. I love talking to woman, it makes me feel alive again.. </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hey, I know your profile says you're from Dallas, but you sound an awful lot like my stbx. <P>[Known each other 9 yrs., separated 5 mo. ago, he just filed. And I *know* there are ladies looking at him....there were ladies looking at him all through our marriage; he just never noticed them. Maybe that's the case with you?]<P>~Amy<BR>

Flirty glances and looking away (plus a coy smile) = I'm interested but too chicken to introduce myself...please make the first move.<P>Openly boldly staring (plus smiles, licking of lips or nodding their head toward you) = you're hot! I'm interested. Let's meet!<P>Men who are gargoyle-like are not stared at boldly or coyly by women - and there are no smiles then either.<P>Time for you to use that "slow Southern charm" and wrangle yourself a woman!<P>Lisa

Dear, handsome Mr. Texas Studmuffin - back in the summer a bunch of us had a meta-thread going (reaching over 2000 posts) and we decided we had to meet. So, on Super Bowl weekend (a coincidence) we are having the first Divorced Marriage Builders Convention at the Holiday Inn - Brentwood just outside Nashville, TN. FaithfulWife and Jayhawk 93 have been tapped to lead our devotional at Temple Beth Jacuzzi. WhenIFindTheTime is planning the orgy. Butterfly is the event photographer. I am the official Party Princess. That's the deal. We women of the group will be glad to ogle you if you would be so kind as to join us.<BR>

Hey good man in texas,<P>It sounds as if Butterfly and Cinderella are giving you my empty space in Nashville. I am unable to go now due to financial burden thanks to my lovely ex.<P>Anyhow, you got a lot of great replies about the staring! Thanks for the laugh about Quasimoto too. To throw in my opinion, sometimes we WANT to get caught! <P>Dana<BR>

OK, Really, Whats the deal in Nashville. I need more details are there any special group hotel rates? Airfare deals? etc.? I'm interested.. Who do I need to talk to??<P>Thanks ladies, you helped me get through the day at work. If I go I will probably be the only guy there wairing a cowboy hat, polished boots and pressed levies. <P>

Holiday Inn Brentwood. January 26 through 28 or 29. You can choose either. Smallish group. No airfare deals. Use your computer for shopping, maybe. Hotel number is 615-373-2600. Group name is Marriage Builders. I think the room rate is around $80 and I imagine the hotel is not full. Right now we are about 8 people strong. May be more, but that many I know have definite plans. I'm the only local.<P>If you come you may wear your boots and jeans. They need not be pressed. And you don't wear your cowboy hat hear unless you want to sell a song or look like a tourist. It is allowed, however. You don't need a tuxedo for the symphony here - but the symphony is not on the agenda. Hot tub party, eat out, play laser tag, hang out.<P>Have you any other questions? I lurk here if you do.

Hey Tex.... <P>Don't worry... you won't be the only one there in boots & jeans (although I prefer rockies) . I don't wear a hat though... messes up the do . You can't go the the country music capital and not Cowboy Up! (at least one day anyway).<P>Check out the specials on Soutwest.... they are running some fantastic deals, and if you book it fast, you can still make the 14 day deadline for the specials!<P>Yeeee Haaaaaaa.... another deligate for the Nasville convention!<P>Smooches,<BR>B

Right now its looking like a 90+% likelihood I'll be there. I'm going to take some vacation and make a trip out of it. I need and deserve a vacation. <P>I think I'm going to drive it.. So when the weekends over I can go explore the country for the whole next week. <P>OK, Who's all going to be there. When is everybody generally arriving? How will we get in touch once we arrive? Surely I wouldn't be the only guy coming?? <P>

AGMIT - You'll find us at the hot tub. That was the requirement for a hotel. We'll be the one's going "You don't look at all like what I imagined." I'll be the one wearing a crown.<P>As far as I know, everyone is arriving Friday p.m. Some depart Sunday and some depart Monday. There will be other men there. <P>Dana - I am not giving away your space. Note, I have offered you part of my room. Work on Mitzi and get her to come. Ride with her. I want - no, I demand with all my royalty - that you come. It won't be the same without you.