I havent looked at the board for a few days because I have had a real low time.<P>My anger manifested itself again, ( I think the PMT didnt help) I got obessed and rang him he had just got back from holiday with 'OW. I had a real go at him on the telephone he rang me back later saying he needed some down time which he spent with OW not on his own. He is always there. He never rings me from his house and I only get yes no answers when he is with her.<P>Look I know what I did was bad I dont need lectures in that. He only left me for OW on the 1 Nov and he was ringing me up intil the day he left for their holiday wanting to come and visit and wanting sex. I said NO.<BR>That was a week ago. He is still using me, and unfortunately when he is nice it is like the old H is there the one I know. He hung up in my ear then she turned her answer phone on so I left numerous messages.<P>D was supposed to go on holiday with him this week but the travel arrangements changed 4 times. He was supposed to be driving her but decided that it he would spend another couple of nights with OW instead and meet D at the bach who will travel with hergrandfather. There is a lot more too this. In the end I decided that she wouldnt go, (yes I am the bad person again) I had enough of the changing stories and lies. It is easy for hom to say sorry after but he shouldnt do it in the first place.<P>I have been able to get some free help as D and I now live of $60 a week for food and pertrol a huge drop in life style again not my choice.<P>Can anyone help re the anger and give some advise in what they do. Or was it just PMT. I have been to the doctor re PMT and doing something about that and I am on antidepressants.<P>It just Hurts that he is happy and gets what he wants with no respect or regard to what he has done.........I do have somegood days too

I think the anger is normal. We have been separated since March, and I still have spells. Mostly they now center on her relationship with the children, so I have made some progress.<P>Having been on both sides, don't expect much from him at this time. He is on the irresponsibility tour, as I call my current wife's antics. Nothing matters except what he wants.<P>I do see some slight hope here. Don't put too much credence in it (after all, what do I know?), but I actually went back to my 1st wife for a couple of months, but the attraction to the OW was too strong.<P>Good Luck.