Hi, Ashley's husband... if you are reading this, then hopefully you still have some questions in your mind about what to really do next.<P>Marriage is an important part of life, and divorce is such an ugly and unnecessary evil in most cases. You loved Ashley enough once to make some pretty important promises... and the breaking of them hurt her a whole lot. And I'll bet you are hurting more than a little yourself. But you know what? That hurt can go away AND you can ease Ashley's hurt as well. Remember, Ashley vowed the same vows that you did, and in addition to the "forsaking all others" part, there is the "for better or worse" part. This is definitely classifiable ast a "worse" - but the vows she made and her love for you enable her to forgive you.<P>So many people feel that they have passed the point of no return when in reality, they can get back to where they want to be simply by turning around and going back. No, your relationship can't be the same again - but then, if the two of you weren't meeting each other's emotional needs anymore, you don't WANT it to be the same. You want it to be NEW, and deep and wonderful... and it can be that way if the two of you take what you have learned from this terrible experience and put it to use in a new life together.<P>Please read everything you can here. And please feel free to ask questions. If we can help in anyway, we are all glad to do so...<P>Feel welcome, and join us in our struggles to rebuild our lives, some of us together with our spouses and some of us alone...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>
