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I just found out thru my mother in law that my H has set up an appointment for Monday to start dissalution paperwork. (His mom works for his attorney) I feel in such despair. To give you back ground H left me on Nov 10th and has not come back. I had no forwarning-there was no fighting he was just very grumpy in October. He is not seeing anyone else as far as we can tell. He does have a coworker who is going thru the same thing and may have an EA w/ her. Anyways he is really driven to do this. Right when I found out my counselor just happened to be @ my work and tried to give words of encouragement. As far as we know his pride has been hurt and he said to show he will not be walked all over he is going thru with this. Where did my husband go? (Whine - whine - whine) Will anything good EVER happen??
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{{{{{{Trs.}}}}}<P>The answer to your question is YES.<P>Good things are going to happen.. The sky will open up and the sun will shine on you again,, You just wait and see. <P>You are in my prayers.<P>Tex.
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Trs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I don't know what to tell you that will make you feel very much better, except that you will survive. It's not gonna be easy, and in fact, there will be lots of highs and lots of lows. But you know what? You will never, ever be alone, because we will all be here with you through EVERYTHING.<P>Yes, of course good things will happen again. Why just today you made a friend.<P>CJ<P>P.S. This might lighten your spirits somewhat. If it weren't so sad, it would be funny: my stbxH and I are currently fighting over who's going to file! Truth really is stranger than fiction! <P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.<p>[This message has been edited by FaithfulWife (edited January 17, 2001).]
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Trs:<BR><B>I just found out thru my mother in law that my H has set up an appointment for Monday to start dissalution paperwork. Where did my husband go? (Whine - whine - whine) Will anything good EVER happen?? </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Has MIL been any help? If not, shame on her (unless you haven't told her you still would rather be together). <P>You need to realize that you will not be able to hold your marriage in a death-grip. Your letting go lightly will be the first step in your own changes, and perhaps a step your STBXH will see as a positive step on your part.<P>Ask yourself who should be happier? The person who sloughs their obligation or the person who stood ready to uphold it? Then go out and make sure you're happier than he is.
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I think an alien took over him. It may make it a little easier to deal with if you think of it this way. My H is doing something very similar. We did have some fights but nothing that seemed real serious at least to me. But I do believe he was not communicating his feelings at those and other times. I am waiting for papers to come at any time, I hope I get some warning but I do not believe I will. Hang in there. Do somthing for yourself. Have faith, I do believe things will get better. <BR>Take care of yourself. <P>Trish
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Just hang in there... We may never know what might happen, but everything happens for a reason. Trust me.. I know how hard it is.. The days do get better. And I know there is nothing worse than being hit with something you had no idea about.. Keep posting and look for support wherever you might find it. <P><BR>arm6868@yahoo.com
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