I found a picture of myself at my going away party I had when I left my old job about one year ago. 2 Weeks later the SBTX left with the kid.<P>Unbelievable the ammount of wieght I have lost. 70+#s. <P>At first it was a depression thing. Now after a year Its turning into a I like it thing.. I totally enjoy working out, Racquetball, Steam room, etc. <P>But I have lost alot of weight..<P>

Amazing how that happens!! I also have dropped about 30lbs since he left.. Starting to feel good about myself again...

Wow! I thought my 25 pounds was bad. I didn't mind a bit when it left. I minded seriously the next time I got depressed and most of it came back. But then I spent several months being too busy to slow down and lost it again. And I don't ever want it back. <P>BTW, I could donate a few pounds if you want them. Like any woman. I could donate a little off those hips and thighs.

Well, I dropped about 30 and definitely need to put some back on <P>Beware of losing too much, I kept being fascianted by watching the scale drop. People at work started commenting about it & when the needle hit 155, I thought whoa! That's kind of paltry for a 6" frame & started trying to put a little back on.<P>Just a thought. I kind of got feeling how an anorexics thinking worked when the weight was falling off me.<P>Take care...<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain <BR>and makes the sun come out again

I went to the doctor about 6 months ago. <P>He couldn't believe it. I was only down about 40 or so back then. I am on blodd pressure and heart meds daily. I told him what was going on in my life just incase I neeed to go onto antidepressants.. He said nope not at this time.. Keep losing wait. I don't know what you have been doing but KEEP DOING IT. So I have been. <P>I guess I took it to heart.

25 for me too - probably another 10 will come off before it's all over...the weird thing is (and I believe many women will relate to this), I used to eat when I was stressed out - you know, comfort foods...now...an appetite is the last thing I have when the day goes south.<P>I call it "The Divorce Depression Diet" or possibly "Nurse Ratchet Appetite Suppression Diet"...either way, she has fatter hips and a bigger butt than me now. <P>Lisa

I've been working out more. If anything, I'm getting *heavier* (6', 195 lbs.). But the stomach is flatter, my shirts are starting to feel tight across the back of my shoulders, and my torso and legs slip easily into the bucket seat pockets of my Mazda. The measurements show me at about 17% body fat, although my Tanita scale lacks an athletic setting, so it's reading in the low 20s. <P>The last time I got down to 150 was about 14 years ago ... I had a thing on my back that turned out to be just a lipoma, but it freaked me out and I went from 180 to 150 in about a month by extreme diet and exercise. <p>[This message has been edited by Sisyphus (edited January 19, 2001).]

I lost 25 lbs. (183 to 158) from d day (6/21/00) to 11/17/00. On 11/17, met a wonderful woman, back up to 168 just like that. Hope I can hold it there.

I lost 15 kilos, I dont know what that is in pounds, but boy it feels good. I lost 10 kilos before thiss all happened so I am now 25 kilos lighter than I was 18 months ago.<P>Had to go and buy some new clothes (what a shame). I wont let H see me at the moment, because I know he will take advantage, his Aunty tells him how well I am looking, just to rub it in his face. I dont want him back and i dont want to see him.<P>My problem is because I have had a huge drop in my lifestyle and income I had to go to second hand shops but I found a real good one and it doesnt worry me, i love a bargin

Just wanted to jump in here. I was thinking about this last night. I too have lost about 25 pds. Shock to me...The thing is, I looked fine then. I am small but apparently can handle the extra weight. I am back to below pre-marriage weight <P>But what I was thinking about last night was regarding not the eating I did over the years...but the fact that my H got involved with Porn and I noticed him looking especially this past year (any young thing that moved) at thin girls. I know as soon as I found out about the A I chopped all my hair off. (I always had short hair) H hated short hair. I found myself trying to look unattractive to him...not aware of any of this...but looking back...interesting. I am happy where I am, nope not starving, eating when and what I want, without any other input <BR>Any one else think they may have done this? I mean, I finally acknowledge the problem and it's like "I" "me" return...I was a sad depressed unsure woman in a heavier body...almost like a barrier...<BR>thoughts?

I'm just under 6'1" about a buck 62 on my scale. The week after D-Day I dropped to 145 lbs...then down to 140. By last June was back to 160 or so...I'd like to hit 175 if can put enough lean muscle on me but am content at 160 to 165.<P>It seems like the infidelty diet is a way to lose gobs of weight but is way too stressful on the body and mind. LOL<P>Bill

Richard Simmons would be so pleased with this new program, he would go get a new pair of sparkly pink tights to promote it. . .not.<P>Glad you all are having great sucess. I remember back last March when I sat up til midnight staring at a bowl of chicken soup. . .my friend took me out, bought me a hamburger and said she was going to sit there and watch me eat every bite, for as long as it would take. I couldn't.<P>Now, after the acceptance stage, I am having a hard time not being a total pig. The big empty place in my life I have filled with munchies. No I have never eaten a whole box of donuts or cocopuffs, but the combination of being totally depressed so that I lack the desire to move around and the fact I still don't have the desire to sit down to a meal but a nibble here and there is making me gain weight. Nothing makes me feel better than a tall latte and a molasses cookie--my metabolism cannot afford that. I am not a member of the skinny club now.<P><BR>Still, I would never go back to last March.<P>

cpickel I tend to agree, I put alot of weight on when I got married and never felt good enough for H. He always liked tall blondes with long hair. I too have cut my hair short now we are not together.<P>All the weight I have lost has made me feel good, but not for him for ME. That is why I dont let him see me.

Another weight loss person here. 25 lbs. gone. I fitting back into the clothes which I had bought right after our daughter was born. And I'm going to have to figure out what to do with these clothes that are getting too big.<P>I talked with my Dr. about the weight loss. She says that part of the gain was due to the anxiety medication that my first Dr. had me on. With the change, I'm eating 'normal' and have more energy ---- so I'm actually functioning normally for the first time in a very long time. <P>(Now, if I can only get away from the colas and candy bars. [That's right folks, 25 lbs. off and I'm actually eating MORE sweets than I did before.])<P>~Amy

I really do not weigh myself but I do know by belts and the way clothes fit me that I have lost 2 inches off my waist and my face is alot thinner. I'm 5'3" and was on my way up to a size 16!! Now I'm still 5'3" (didn't grow much in height??) my clothes size is under a 12 I think. All my 14's are hanging on me. It feels great!!!! H's aunt got me 15 tanning sessions also so I am on my way to looking and feeling better. I'm 29 , I have a career, no kids and I'm feeling fine!! (OW is 35 w/ 3 kids and living w/ her parents) They can have each other!! i keep asking people at work if they would like to try my diet but they say"NO THANKS!!!"

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by out of the fog:<BR><B>(Now, if I can only get away from the colas and candy bars. [That's right folks, 25 lbs. off and I'm actually eating MORE sweets than I did before.])</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Canned lemon and lime carbonated water does a great job replacing sodas ... as does V-8.<P>If you drink protein shakes like Myoplex, you may want fewer candy bars. The energy level goes up, the desire to eat trash goes down.<P>Exercise also helps temper your appetite.<P>

Hello everyone, <P>I havent posted for some time....since I found out my husband had been seeing someone since August , but still trying to work on our marriage. I was the one who wanted out but, i guess till it came right down to it, I wasnt 100% sure. I have lost 40 pounds since March, I also have tried to continue to keep it off............still on a roller coaster emotionally , but could be trying to help 2 separate friends through a divorce, along with my own. Feels great, hope to keep it off!!!!!!!! Coll

Besides the 170 lbs. I dropped when he left.....(oooops...that was him....HA!)<P>I didn't loose any weight!! How depressing. I even gained a little. I didn't have much of an appetite, but I guess I'm an emotional eater......I'm always looking for that one perfect food that is tasty, yummy, not too light, but fills you up.....and so I keep trying out different foods....ugghhh!<P>However, my resolution this year was to loose some weight and exercise more. Yeah, yeah....everyone's resolution. But I have been teaching myself how to eat better, very carefully and slowly as I HATE to cook. But I'm making one little change at a time. Feels good.<P>And I have started doing Tae Bo each morning (at 5:30am) for the past 2-1/2 weeks. I feel much more energized, even tho I don't feel or look like I've lost weight yet. But hopefully, I will hang in there and it'll happen.<P>I turned his computer/office room into my new and improved exercise studio!! It feels pretty good.<P>Keep the faith!<BR>Mrs.O<BR>