Well another Birthday is upon me.<P>I received birthday cards throughout the week from family and friends including one from my ex-wife's parents and another from her grandparents. Then today, I actually received a very nice card from my ex-wife herself. <P>Now I know that my ex would remember what today was, but I never really expected to hear from her. Her card actually brought a few tears to my eyes too. I wasn't expecting anything from her and just getting this card really shocked the heck out of me. I don't want to read anything into this either as this was probably nothing more than just a friendly gesture.<P>And as thoughtful as it was for her family to send me cards, that didn't surprise me as much because I know that they still care for me regardless of my ex's decision to end our marriage.<P>Sometimes things just really take me off guard!

Someone told me a couple of days ago that she might still have feelings for me.....<P>hmmm... I wonder who he was?<P>Of course she still has feelings for you. My best advice is to accept it in the spirit of a friendly gesture (as it was most surely intended) and thank her graciously for it. <P>My STBX's sent a card & a gift too, it's a little unsettling at times, isn't it?<P>Have a nice day Shawn. Go do something nice for yourself. You deserve it.<P>Take care...<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain <BR>and makes the sun come out again

Jayhawk,<P>I do understand.<P>My stbx came over for X-mas night to see the kids,and he gave me a gift.<P>It did catch me by surprise,I didn't really know what to say.What? who me,......never have something to say back! That doesn't happen very often.LOL <P>I did finally say thank you,that he didn't have to do that.Went on w/the evening and left it at that.<P>I didn't look more into then just what it was.I know him too well.He was being nice and that is all.No hidden meaning.[he made his choice when he moved out]<P>I agree w/what Nick said,take care of your self,go do something fun!<P>Chin up,it will get better.<P>Gina <P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

She probably didn't do it for any hidden meaning. I think it was merely a polite gesture. I can understand, though, your hopes that there was hidden meaning. In response, I would either do nothing or call her and thank her for the card but get off the phone quickly. You can always feign being in a hurry.<P> ((((((((((Shawn))))))))))<P>-Jane-Elise

I didn't send my ex a thing this year nor did she send me anything...I think it wasbetter that way...<P>Hang in there dude!!<P>Bill

Happy Birthday.<P>love and hugs<P>Jo

oooops....<P>I didn't say happy birthday to ya...<P>Happy Birthday!!!<P>Welcome to the 30's!!<P>Bill

Happy birthday.<P>I wouldn't read too much into the card. It was nice, but don't look for hidden meanings.<P><P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess